I’ve been living and dating women in Medellin, Colombia for over ten years now.
Colombian women are beautiful, and word is spreading pretty much around the world. Therefore, I have decided to document my experience.
Places frequented by tourists in Medellin are more saturated with foreigners than ever before. Hot Medellin girls are not the sole reason for this rise in tourism to “The City of Eternal Spring,” but it is up there.
I started to document my dating life on this blog post back in 2013 as a fun side project. It has blossomed into a public journal that has helped me in my own personal development. I really enjoy sharing my experiences.
My goal with this blog post is to share what my dating life has been like and inform those wanting to come to Colombia.
Disclaimer: I am aware of the underworld of sex tourism, sex monger networks, and prostitution in Colombia and I know that there are many strip clubs and brothels in Medellin; however, strippers and “prepagos” (prostitutes) are not the types of girls that I date, nor is it something I would like to promote; therefore, I will not be referring to that in this post.
Also, this is a narrative of my own experiences. It is not meant to guide or advise other guys (I’m not a dating coach).
Lastly, I do not intend to degrade or belittle Colombian women. On the contrary, I respect them and believe that you’ll find extraordinary women no matter where you go. Medellin just happens to have many of them,
My Unique Perspective On Dating in Medellin
My situation is a little different from most foreigners here in Colombia. I am actually Colombian, my family is Colombian, I speak Spanish fluently, and more importantly (aside from my height, 6’2″) I look Colombian. I have lived my entire life, barring the last few years, in Southern California. At first glance, Medellin women do not perceive me as a foreigner due to the way I look. So I do not have that instant “gringo effect.”
The Gringo Effect
The “gringo effect” is the reaction a foreign guy gets from some girls here in Medellin. It is an immediate sense of curiosity that some Colombian women have upon seeing a foreigner. Most of my close friends here in Medellin are foreigners and I have seen girls break their necks checking them out as we walk down the street or through a mall.
I do not get that immediate attention here in Medellin. Actually, I got more instant attention in Southern California; the “Latino effect.” The only thing that makes me stand out to women in Colombia is my height, thank God for that one tall great uncle!
I speak Spanish fluently; therefore, I can’t play the “…no haaablo Españoler mucho bueno. Quieres practicar?” card with women in Colombia. Regardless, I look on the bright side and see this as an advantage.
I’m outgoing and funny, so I can really be myself when speaking Spanish. It is hard for one’s true personality to translate when speaking another language, but luckily I am a fluent Spanish speaker and have learned enough Paisa slang to be my witty self.
I have found that Medellin women, as in most parts of the world, love compliments, good conversation, and like it when a guy can make them laugh. So Spanish has been essential for me here in Medellin.
Places I Meet Women In Medellin
Meeting women in Medellin is not hard. Socially, women are a little different than the southern California women I was used to meeting.
I meet women, EVERYWHERE. There is an abundance of beautiful women here, and they’re nice. The culture here in Colombia is one of being friendly and social. So if you see someone you are attracted to at a cafe, a mall, a bar, on the bus, or the metro, it’s not weird to say hi, and try to start a conversation.
Although it’s easy to meet people here. It’s not easy to meet like-minded women. After over a decade here, my honeymoon with Medellin is over. I don’t just want a pretty, young girl. I’d like to find a pretty, young girl (younger than me, 25-30), that has goals, dreams, ambitions, and direction. Someone that challenges me to grow, and that I challenge too.
Here are my go-to places to meet women.
My way to meet women in Colombia is through activities.
- Nerd shit
I play basketball, spikeball (roundnet), and volleyball.
Basketball isn’t much of a co-ed sport, but I’ve been playing on teams in tournaments where there’s a men’s league and a women’s league. The games are always on the weekend, and they’re all mixed. So I can sit and watch the women play before or after my games. Being part of the basketball community has allowed me to connect with women that love basketball as much as I do. Granted that many of them are lesbians, lol, but it’s been a great experience and a great way to make friends.
Spikeball and volleyball are co-ed sports. There are Facebook, Instagram, and WhatsApp groups for both sports. It’s easy to join a group and play. Again, these groups serve as a great way to meet people and have a hobby in common. We will usually play for a couple of hours, kick it and drink beers afterward.
A couple of years ago, I started a non-profit organization with a group of friends called Help Colombia. Volunteering has been a great source of like-minded people. Before I started the non-profit organization, I would join volunteer activities across the city. My favorite thing to do is to help with kids and teach English. In these volunteer groups, you’ll meet amazing people. Altruistic people, have jobs, have other activities, etc. Again, after the volunteering event, people typically go out to grab a bite to eat or a drink. So it’s easy to make connections. There are Facebook, Instagram, and WhatsApp groups for these groups.
Festivals & Concerts & Shows
Medellin’s beautiful weather allows for many festivals throughout the year. From book festivals to craft beer-tasting festivals to international artists coming through, there’s always something to go to.
It’s straightforward to meet people at these events because that’s why people go to them. To be social, try new things, and meet new people. The best thing about these events is that they are paid events. There’s usually a cover charge, plus you have to have money to pay for food and drinks. So the profile of women who attend these types of events is different. Since it’s paid, most women you’ll meet some women have jobs, careers, and busy lives. This is attractive to me. It’s the type of woman I want to meet.
There are many places to find out what events are happening around the city. Social media is a good place to start. Furthermore, you can check out these sites, TicketExpress, LaTiquetera, CompasUrbano.
I love to play video games and board games. So I join groups that get together and play. For video games, it’s pretty much all online. For board games, you have to get together in person. We’ll go over to someone’s house, or I’ll host. These groups aren’t the best place to pick up women. I have taken a new love interest to board game night, and it’s always a hit.
Clubs & Bars
The pandemic lockdowns hit Medellin pretty hard. Clubs and bars had to shut down. Slowly, Medellin nightlife has bounced back. Unfortunately, Parque Lleras is now infested with hookers and older gringos buying them.
Fortunately, the area of Provenza has become pedestrian, and the number of clubs and bars there has increased.
Of course, the Provenza area isn’t the only place in town with nightlife, but it’s one of the best. I’ve lived here in Medellin for over 10 years now. I’ve lived in seven different neighborhoods across the valley, and I’m telling you, Provenza is the best nightlife area for me to meet women.
There are a few reasons for this.
The first reason is that I prefer to meet women 25 and older, with jobs, aspirations, goals, dreams, living independently, etc. Many of the other nightlife hotspots around the city are frequented by younger people. For example, the cubs on la 33, La 45 in Manrique, and the bars and discos in Buenos Aires. Those are all great places to party, but for me, they haven’t been a great places to pick up women. This is why I stick to Provenza and the clubs in Palmas.
The second reason is that it’s close to my house. I live within walking distance from Provenza. I don’t have to get in a car and travel very far. This is key for dates. I usually have the Uber bring my date to my apartment, we’ll walk over to one of the many restaurants in the area, get some cocktails, and head over to a dance club. When the night’s over, we either walk down the hill to my place, if she’s wearing heels, we’ll cab it, or Uber it down to my place. It’s pretty convenient.
Picking Them Up at a Bar or Club
It is not usual for women in Medellin to go out by themselves just to let loose. Typically, gorgeous girls in Medellin will go to a bar or a nightclub in a group, and many times there will be guys in that group. For an emasculated man from the United States, this is a nightmare. Penetrating that group of friends, playing “the game” to get to your “target girl” is hard work and sometimes does not work if you don’t speak Spanish well enough for her to understand.
Many guys who come to Colombia cannot pick up girls in their native language let alone in Spanish and some even have the audacity to say that the women here are just “gold diggers” or “too difficult,” which is not accurate at all.
Here in Medellin, you do NOT need to play that game. Medellin nightclubs are for dancing, so it’s very easy to go up to a woman in a noisy disco, put out your hand, gesture for her to take it, and start dancing. I do this often, and I often dance to one or two songs without even saying a word. Imagine our hands are on each other’s bodies before even knowing each other’s names.
More often than not, I’m not even interested in talking to the girl; I want to dance and have fun. I get in there and leave silently. Amazingly, when I do that, women are more attracted than when I start talking to them while dancing.
I’ve found that a certain amount of negligence after making an impression piques a woman’s interest. It is the whole psychological framework of the type of woman who wants a strong man (check out this great article on Psychology Today by Gina Barreca, Ph.D.) I started to read about this subject back in high school. It is not about being petulant or rude. It’s about being confident (comfortable in your skin.)
Dating Sites & Apps
I’ve only met women off of two paid services, Colombian Cupid, and Tinder.
I buckled down last year and got a Colombian Cupid dating site account (disclaimer: I’m not trying to push Colombian Cupid; that’s annoying. If you’re not interested in hearing my experience on the site, scroll down.)
I never needed to get an account because I met so many people through my language exchanges and just lived my life here in Medellin. Nevertheless, I subscribed for 3 months and gave it a whirl.
In 3 months, I went on about 20 dates from Colombian Cupid. It was pretty amazing. Out of the 20, I became friends with 8 girls, and we still hang out.
I found that the key to “matching” was to build out my profile well. What does that consist of?
- Picture – I had a great picture taken by my photographer friend, the one I use as a profile picture. The other four pictures are of me doing the things I love: playing basketball, watching Colombian soccer matches, having fun with friends, teaching, etc.
- Description – I’m a very blunt and honest person. In my profile description, I wrote about myself in that way. Stating that I am from California but that I am Colombian, and that I am always busy working, playing on my basketball team, and exploring Colombia. I wrote this in both English and Spanish.
- What I want – I was very straightforward in the part that asks what I’m looking for. I wrote: ‘I’m looking for a serious relationship, but if it doesn’t work, I’m always open to making new friends. My ideal girl is someone that will motivate me and inspire me every day. If your profile says “soy una princesa” please do no contact me.’
Once I had my profile built out over 90% (there’s a metric), I started messaging. I’m in sales. Therefore, it’s all in the numbers. I’m not a handsome blue-eyed, blond-haired guy so I know my strength is my gift of gab. So I made a goal to message 100 women.
At first, I started by writing a funny, short message. That bombed for me. I don’t know why, but I didn’t get any replies. So I put myself in the shoes of a paisa girl looking for a long-term relationship on Colombian Cupid, and I found my secret sauce.
My first message was a compliment about something they wrote on their profile, not their looks. Thus, I had to take the time to read their profiles and make a comment about something they wrote. It took more time, but the success rate skyrocketed. Here’s the formula I found:
- Do not click on the little heart to show interest. Very beautiful women get that every minute of the day.
- Read profiles and make a compliment or a relevant comment.
- I don’t write to them if they don’t have a bio written out. If they don’t take the time to write out their bio and what they’re looking for, then they are either too shy, not looking for something long term or it’s a fake profile for a prostitute or webcam girl.
Once I had a good message exchange, I would go to my filter, Facebook. Once I had them on Facebook, I could see all of their pictures, and they could see all of mine. Once we were keen on each other, I would ask for the date. You can do a Skype video call if you don’t live in Colombia.
There are always over 800 girls online.
I’ve written a post titled, My Experience Using Colombian Cupid. Feel free to read it and leave a comment there if you have any questions.
I did a bit more research on the Cupid Media company and found that they’re all over the place, even Mexico, Brazil, and all of Latin America!
Tinder in Colombia
Right now, the use of Tinder here in Medellin is under scrutiny because many guys are going out with women, getting drugged and robbed. So learn the basic red flags before going on a date. My friend, Akash, made a good documentary about a guy who was drugged and robbed by his Tinder date titled, Drugged on Tinder Date | Scopolamine Danger | Robbed (Medellin, Colombia). There’s also a second part titled, Drugged on Tinder Date (Part 2) | Scopolamine Danger | The Aftermath (Medellin, Colombia).
That being said, Tinder has been a positive experience for me here in Medellin. As you know, I’ve been here for over ten years, so it’s pretty easy for me to see when a woman is a prostitute, a hood rat, or a good girl.
I don’t pay a monthly fee at Tinder, I pay for the boosts. Whenever I boost, I get a couple of matches, start chatting, and set up a date.
Colombian Girls are not Gold Diggers!
I’ve heard many foreign guys complain that they always get hit up for money (or things) by girls here. After seven years of living here in Medellin, I have discovered that most of the guys that get asked for cash or things are guys that try to date prostitutes.
Don’t be Captain Save a Hoe!
Even though it might look enticing because they are beautiful, charming, and down to earth, you rarely will be able to turn a “hoe into a housewife.” You will be taken advantage of, and you’ll resent Colombian women.
It’s unfair to generalize 25 million women because of a few bad apples. Instead, go out and try to meet a normal girl perhaps at the mall, bank, café, etc.
I tought English here in Medellin for four years (2011 – 2015). Though I have a business and I have not worked a “regular job” in a few years; teaching English in Medellin was the best move I could have made for my social life.
I never dated any of my students. I am very North American in that regard. Though dating students in Medellín is not uncommon and sometimes not even frowned upon, it is unacceptable in the United States, so I drew a line and never crossed it. I was the leader in my classes, and dating a student could have gotten messy; I could have lost all credibility and position in class, so I avoided it altogether.
I did, however, go out with groups of students and/or colleagues to make friends and meet new people. Students would add me on Facebook, and then their friends and cousins would add me. That served to be an abundant source of women here in Medellin. Facebook is huge here; striking up a conversation via messenger after being added is not hard.
Women in Medellin are Shy
I made this new friend and decided to pick up the picture at Carnaval de Barranquilla.
Most Medellin girls are pretty shy by nature. You have to understand that even though Medellin and the metropolitan area has around four million inhabitants, it is still a small town. Medellin is a conservative city that is very much in touch with its old traditions and customs. Family life is very traditional. Gender roles are also very conservative and defined, so logically the women in Medellin, for the most part, are timid (until you get some alcohol in them and play some reggaeton, but we will get to that in a later blog post.)
This inherently coy personality could make it difficult for a foreigner who doesn’t speak much Spanish to gain a girl’s interest. Even for a fluent Spanish speaker, I have found it frustrating sometimes. Many a time, I have given up on a girl only to find out later that she was very interested.
One-night stands with women in Medellin are not very common for me. I experienced more of this living in southern California than here in Medellin. A foreign-looking guy could probably have a very different experience. Not to say I haven’t had them here, but not as much as I did in the U.S.
Honesty and Jealousy
She’s got a bit of a temper but is a very cool friend.
I have found that being honest with women in Medellin is the best route. Letting them know right away that I work a lot, and that my business goals are my primary focus has proven to be a key factor when dealing with women here.
In my opinion, many men and women in Medellin are possessive. Some view their boyfriend or girlfriend as their possession, and they want to be viewed as a possession. So jealousy can get out of control. As an English teacher, most of my students’ ages range from 18 to 30, and there were always more female students than males. I used to love to ask my female students what they think of men in Medellin. It’s always pretty clear that women think that men are cheaters. It’s always noted that men in Medellin say anything to get a girl to fall for them.
There is a whole culture around having a “mosa,” in Medellin. It is almost expected for a man to have a chick on the side. So it’s no surprise that women become possessive and quickly suspect a guy of sleeping around. I avoid this by being honest and direct.
Grooming and Wardrobe
This grooming and wardrobe section I just put in today (05/03/16). I had to include it because I meet far too many guys that are just clueless. So let’s go over some faux pas (the don’ts) first.
Colombian Men’s Fashion Don’ts:
- Don’t wear flip-flops (open-toed shoes) to make a good impression on girls in Medellin. It’s ok on the coast, but women think it is gross here in Medellin.
I’ve recently noticed guys (black or Asian from the U.S.) wearing black basketball slippers with white socks and basketball shorts in public. For a Paisa, that is not attractive. Women here have told me that it looks like they’re wearing their pajamas. You’ll never catch anyone dressed like that in public unless if it’s a basketball player going to practice.
- Don’t wear shorts. During the day, it’s okay, as long as they are not board shorts (beach shorts). Stylish shorts that come down to the knee or just above work well. It can get scorching during the day in Medellin, yet most local men wear pants. Do NOT wear shorts to go out clubbing at night. They will not let you in. Melissa over at Medellin Living wrote a great piece on men’s fashion in Medellin.
Colombian Men Fashion Dos:
- Do groom. This means plucking your nose and ear hair. The nicely groomed half-beard is in these days, so that’s ok.
- Do shave your armpits. You will rarely meet a Colombian guy that doesn’t. Hence many Colombian women expect this. In fact, many shave their arms and sometimes legs too. I still think it’s pretty…feminine; therefore, I don’t do it. As long as you’re not super hairy, you’re fine.
- Do tuck your shirt in when you go to a fancy club. Again, this is something that I do not do, but local males do this, and women respond to it.
- Do take a shower. You will not get laid if you stink.
- Do brush your teeth. Colombians are obsessed with teeth. If you’ve got nice teeth, this can be a great defining quality to women here.
- Do wear cologne. They love that here. Most local guys douse themselves in it.
- Do look sharp at all times. I’ve gotten into the habit of always looking decent, even when going to the gym or basketball practice. I’ll always carry an extra shirt, toothbrush, deodorant, and body spray…because you never know whom you’ll meet on the Metro.
My Dating Life in Medellin
Here’s my dating life in updates over the years.
Jessica is gorgeous.
Dating Jes – September 10, 2015
I dated Jessica for several months, but things did not work out. Mostly because she had to go to Bogota for her internship and it was tough to keep the relationship going long distance.
She’s a fantastic girl: very hard-working, independent, entrepreneurial, and very sweet. I’m sure that many guys would say that I’m nuts for not keeping her, but that’s the way it is sometimes, gotta keep moving forward and not look back.
Today, I’m super interested in another girl here in Medellin. She’s also very hard-working, she’s more of a loose cannon than Jessica, meaning she’s a little more extroverted and opinionated, but that’s precisely the kind of girl I like. I’m taking it slower with her, I have been on two dates with her and kissed her only once. I’m consciously trying to be a complete gentleman and get to know her well.
With the cheap plastic surgery here and the obsession with outward appearance, it’s easy to get caught up with a very “artificially” beautiful girl, but I’m well past that point. So I’m delighted to have met Monica, and we’ll see where it goes. I’ll update you soon.
Monica is in the middle, she’s got such great energy.
Seeing Mona – April 16, 2016
I’m no longer seeing Monica. I’m not seeing anyone right now. Likewise, I’m just working very hard on my business and a real estate project. I have made many new friends, though, and that’s always good. Not only that, but I will update you in detail soon. For now, feel free to leave comments below. As you can see, I’m pretty good at replying.
Bank Teller Anecdote – September 06, 2016
I’ve been super focused on my business. We’re opening up an office here in Medellin, a digital marketing agency, Red Door Studios S.A.S. This has led me to go on far fewer dates than before. I do have a nice little anecdote, though.
I was at the bank the other day, and I had to do a transaction with the teller. I was not really paying attention, but when I was called to the window, the girl helping me was absolutely gorgeous. I smiled and said hi, then asked her how she was doing. I think she was taken aback because not many people ask her that.
She said she was doing good, and I told her she must be new because I hadn’t seen her working at that branch. She said that they usually move them around. I told her I needed to make a deposit, and we proceeded with the typical transaction details.
As she was inputting data into the computer, I told her that I thought it would be against bank policy for her to give me her phone number. Therefore, I’d come back when she got off. She said that would be fine. As I walked away, I stuffed the transaction receipt into my pocket and walked into the Exito (supermarket) to buy groceries.
My day was so full that I didn’t even eat lunch that day. Come at 5:30 p.m. I had totally forgotten about the beautiful teller and proceeded to go play basketball as I usually do. When I got back home, I remembered the girl. This has been my life for the last few months: business and basketball (I play on two teams here in the city) and admin of the Medellin Basketball Association basketball group.
As I was getting ready to go to bed, I emptied out my pants’ pockets. The deposit receipt was there and to my surprise, she had written her phone number on the back. I immediately added it to my phone and sent her a WhatsApp message, telling her that I had missed her after work because I got caught up with work, and then I went to play basketball. She replied that it was fine, we exchanged a couple more messages and have been speaking since. We should be going out this weekend.
Everyone’s Single in December – December 14, 2016
It’s the middle of December, and Christmas in Medellin is in full swing. Every weekend is a party, and everyone is single. Even girls with boyfriends are single in Medellin.
My favorite thing about December in Medellin is the street parties in different neighborhoods. The whole block is closed off, and deafening music is played, food is cooked, and dancing and drinking continue into the middle of the next day.
I recently reconnected with a girl who has been an acquaintance for more than a couple of years. She’s pretty and smart but has always had a boyfriend since I’ve known her. Last weekend I went on a Christmas Chiva (party bus), and there she was with a different guy. I just said hi, hung out, and danced with the girls I came with.
After 2 hours of riding around town while drinking and dancing, we talked. Lo and behold, she’s single. We danced for the rest of the night, then, once the chiva dropped us off, we continued talking.
This was last Saturday, it’s Wednesday today, and we’ve been talking on Facebook. Even though I’ve known her for 2 years, I didn’t know her. It turns out that she works for the public utility company here, EPM. She’s an architect and her passion is dancing and is part of a team. She also lives alone and is quite intelligent.
Regardless of what happens to her, I think she’ll be a great friend.
Colombian women are gorgeous. (This is a stock image because “D” didn’t want me using her picture.
D on Colombian Cupid – January 25, 2017
Well, the girl I started seeing in December has become just a friend. I liked her a lot, but she did something that confused me.
A couple of weeks ago, she wrote me on WhatsApp. She noted that she had been talking to her ex-boyfriend and was thinking about getting back together. Mind you, this is after we had been out on several dates and gotten physical.
I told a friend about what she had said, and he said that maybe she wanted to test me. To see if I’d get angry and tell her she’s mine, or perhaps she was just being honest with me. I gave her the benefit of the doubt and thought she was being honest.
I wrote her back and told her that I liked her, but that she needs to do whatever made her feel happy and that I still wanted to be friends, that I’m still here for her whenever she wants to talk or go dance bachata/salsa.
She hasn’t written me since. LOL. I guess she wasn’t bluffing.
In lieu of being…dumped (we were never actually dating, but…still), I decided to reopen my Colombian Cupid Dating Site account. I talked to a few girls, but nothing special.
Then came Dani.
She is 21 and beautiful. At first, I thought, oh, she’s too young…even though her profile stated that she likes guys between 25-35, I still didn’t think we’d have much in common or to talk about.
Regardless, I sent her a private message. Shortly after, she replied and we started to exchange messages. Ultimately I got her phone number and added her to WhatsApp.
We went on our first date last Saturday. Thanks to my notes I know that her favorite food is Italian, so I took her to a great restaurant called IL Castello in el poblado. I had the Fettuccine Alfredo (very good.)
After that, we went for cocktails at a cool restaurant/bar called 37 Park near Parque Lleras, where we had a jar of white wine and lychee Sangria.
By this time I could feel the chemistry, so once we were done with the Sangria we headed over to Vintrash for dancing. Wow, can this girl move, I was floored. By the end of the date, we had connected very well through conversation, physically through dancing, and lots of kissing.
I would have to say that it was the best date I’ve had in a long time. I’m looking forward to seeing her more and where this all goes.
Still Seeing D – March 27, 2017
It’s been 3 months since I last updated. I’ve been “seeing” D this whole time and it’s been great. The best part is that she’s been adamant about not wanting a boyfriend, so I’m still free, thank god almighty!
So hanging out with D has made it clear to me that it is possible to find a girl that’s 21, hot, that I can converse with, and that works and studies. We do have some clashes on things…like her wanting to spend all weekend just “resting.”
Yeah, I’m kinda weird, I guess. Many might say, why wouldn’t you want to be lying around with her all day?
To be honest, I get bored. I usually do stuff on weekends, like playing basketball. I play on two different teams in a couple of tournaments, and I play pick-up as well. Or just going to Ciudad Del Rio to eat at the food trucks. Or going out with a group of friends to a bar or a club and having a fun time.
I’m more energetic than she is, but we compromise. Plus, it’s not like I see her every day or all weekend. Regardless, I’ve been having a great time with her.
A couple of weekends ago, we went to a finca (country house) on the lake at Guatape with a few friends. We had lots of food and drinks, swam in the lake, played soccer, petted cows, and had a fantastic time.
As for other girls?
Well, I haven’t been looking, but it’s funny how when you’re not looking, they kinda find you. Perhaps it’s the nonchalant attitude or the no-pressure attitude. Whatever it is, it’s working well, and I haven’t had any problems getting dates on weekends.
I’ve found some awesome new date spots that I wanted to share:
- Bolivar Dance Club is great if you want to take a girl out dancing. It’s a little more upscale, so you should wear nice clothes. The music is right up my alley, mostly hip-hop and reggaeton. NOTE: it’s 23 and over, I tried to go in there with D, and we were denied at the door.
- Mercado Del Rio – This is a fun place to go to. It’s a big market-style eatery that was built in a hangar. There are many restaurants (mostly barbecue style) inside, including a wine bar, a couple of cafés, and a dance club on the third floor. It’s an excellent place for a date or to hang out with friends.
The D Saga and…Who Pays on Dates? – July 14, 2017
It’s been four months since I last updated. I’m still seeing D. She’s 21, I’m 36, I work a lot and so does she. She works at a bank full-time. So we see each other sometimes during the week, but mostly on weekends.
She’s…a little different.
Before meeting me, she had a bad breakup, and she’s always had me at arm’s length in terms of expressing her feelings. She has always said that she doesn’t want a relationship, that we’re having fun and that’s it. However, a few weeks ago we were out partying with my friends in Envigado.
There were other girls there, and we were all dancing. I danced with a girl, one of my brother’s girlfriend’s friends, I didn’t think much of it. We finished dancing, I turned to D, and she had this angry look. She didn’t say anything and just up and left. She got in a cab without explanation and took off.
I was like…what?
Anyway, I didn’t talk to her for two weeks. I’m too busy to be chasing girls. I like her a lot and I’ve expressed it to her, yet she’s been cold.
Last week she wrote to me and told me that she missed me, I told her the same. So we met up for dinner. She arrived with a gift bag and gave it to me. It was a little stuffed animal and a card, which I thought was awesome.
Women, regardless of their nationality, are weird.
So now we’re good, but with her mood swings, I’m sure we’ll have some sort of fight. The good thing is that she now knows that I don’t like to play that cat-and-mouse game. I told her that I love hanging out with her and that if she ever feels angry or that I’d done something to hurt her that she should talk to me instead of just storming off. So we’re good now, but we’ll see.
Who Pays On Dates?
The man pays. Period. I don’t care how broke you are or how you feel that they are taking advantage of you. In my book…(my dad’s book originally, lol), if I’m taking a girl out for a nice time, I always pay, no question.
I remember when I was a kid and I was going to go on my first date with a girl. I asked my dad for money to go to the movies. He told me that I had to work for it. So I went to his business and worked all day for which he paid me $20.00. He then said that I had to go to work the next day as well. I laughed, and said, “right.” He said I needed another $20 for the date. At 13 I was baffled by this. I asked, “what do you mean?”
He said that I needed to have money for: her movie ticket, popcorn, soda, and ice cream after the show; that if I didn’t go to work the next day he would not let me go to the movies. I quickly found a great excuse, “but I have homework to finish.”
“You know the answer, figure it out,” he replied.
He continued, ‘…paying for everything doesn’t make you a “real man,” the point is that money should never be an issue. If you work hard and smart, you’ll be able to go on as many dates as you want and never have the lack of money hinder your experience.’
How the fuck was I going to argue that?
In Medellin, women, in general, expect the guy to pay. It’s part of people’s frame of mind. Of course, some women will offer to split or pay the whole tab. Furthermore, some girls will want to take advantage. If you’ve got a girl asking you for money or to buy her things, then it’s probably a good idea to stay away. Unless you don’t mind.
With D, I always send an Uber to pick her up and bring her to my apartment or our date spot. It costs about 8,000 pesos ($3.50 US), so it’s pretty negligible. It makes her feel important, which she is, and she’s never late, which can be a problem in Medellin.
Treat Her to Breakfast
Oh, hey, I’ve found some great places for breakfast (now that I’m on a no processed sugar, carbs, or alcohol diet, I wake up early on weekends).
Hija Mia – This is my favorite for two reasons, the coffee is excellent, and the food is fantastic. It’s right here in my neighborhood, Manila, so I can walk over.
Making Myself Better – September 13, 2017
One of the things that I’ve found to really help improve my relationships with women in Medellin is self-improvement. On December of last year, I made a few resolutions to make myself better in all areas of life.
Day 138 #200DayChallenge 150 pushups
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- Improve my body (I’ve lost over 30lbs since January):
- Diet – I was overweight and weak. I vowed to quit eating processed sugar and processed carbs. I’ve held that promise to this day. It’s not a “diet” anymore. It’s a lifestyle. After much research, I’ve decided that the next step is to try the Keto Diet. Even though I’m pretty strict about what I eat, I still eat well. I’ve even formed a Medellin Foodie Group. We meet every Wednesday at a different restaurant. It’s a great way to try new food and meet new people.
- Gym – I joined Smart Fit gym and loved it! It’s only $69,000 monthly for the Black membership, which lets me go to any Smart Fit gym in Colombia. I go to the gym every Tuesday, Thursday, and Friday.
- 100-Day Challenge – 140 days ago, a few friends and I decided to challenge ourselves and do 100 push-ups and sit-ups for 100 days straight. We made a WhatsApp chat group to keep each other accountable. We upload a video of one of our sets every day. If someone doesn’t upload a video we take $50,000. We finished our 100-day challenge 40 days ago. We felt so awesome that we decided to make it a 200-day challenge. We’re on day 140 today.
- Basketball – I also resolved to play more basketball in Medellin this year. Since January, I’ve been playing every Monday, Wednesday, and Saturday. I joined three teams to play in tournaments, and games are on Saturdays and Sundays. Basketball serves as great exercise and a distraction from work and life. My Medellin Basketball Association group on Facebook has grown immensely.
- Improve my mind
- Books – This year, I resolved to read more books. At least once a month. This year I’ve read Tools of Titans, Mindset, The 110% Solution, SCRUM, Digital Gold, Treasure Island, Dune, The Best Salesman in the World (again), Little Red Book of Selling (again), One Minute Manager (again.)
- Online Classes – I’m always taking online classes for various things, usually related to my business. I use edX to take online classes at universities like Berkeley, Harvard, and MIT. Currently, I’m doing the Google Online Challenge.
- Improve my business
- 2016 was a good year for my business, Red Door Studios. Since we’re a digital marketing agency, scaling can be tricky and in some cases involves hiring a ton of people.
- I’ve been reading books like SCRUM and The One Minute Manager to help me strengthen my core employee group and it’s been working.
- I’ve also asked for help and advice from some of my friends here in Medellin who have made it big, like Brent Mauriello, CEO of FlexFire LEDS, and Zach Blenkinsopp, CEO of Digital Roofing Innovations. It really is true that your network = net worth.
All of these things have helped me become more awesome. My 3-year goal is to help retire my parents, therefore, I need all the energy, motivation, and positive influences I can get.
Happy New Year! – January 15, 2018
We’re halfway into the first month of 2018. I’m still seeing Dani, aka Puchas. I call her Puchas because that’s how she pronounces the word “push-ups.” She knows I do push-ups every morning, so she always asks, “ya hiciste tus puchas?” and it makes me laugh.
As for “the relationship?” Well, we’ve got it all figured out. We’re just friends, and everyone is happy. I’m just fucking around about the whole figured out part. Anyone who thinks they can “just be friends” has got their head up their booty.
Regardless, I’ve been pretty busy with work, so D is the only girl I’ve been seeing and it’s been fun.
One of my 2018 resolutions is to do more fun things out of the office. Therefore, on the first weekend of the year, I participated in a 3 on 3 tournament in a town called Marinilla (near Rio Negro). Dani was nice enough to accompany me. It was an all-day affair, so her putting up with basketball all day was nice. We got second place.
The old man can still get up.
After the tournament, we went to eat at a great restaurant in the town called La Torre. Marinilla is a cool little town less than an hour outside of Medellin. It’s a little colder than Medellin, so bring a sweater. The town’s population is about 50,000, there’s a town square with a church in the middle, and a zona rosa (a street with nice bars, restaurants, and little shops.) To get there you can take the metro to the Caribe station, where the North Bus Terminal is, and pay $6,000 ($2.00 US) for the bus to Marinilla. I didn’t want to deal with the bus on the way up, so I took an Uber, $80,000 ($25.00 US.) On the way back home we took the bus.
I’m 37 now
My B-Day was on January 3rd. Franco, my brother, organized a surprise dinner at Black Pepper Steak House in Envigado. It was a nice surprise. All of my friends were there and we had a great meal. I had the tri-tip, it was great, I’ll definitely be going back there.
It’s easy to get shit twisted and clump up all Colombian women in one category. I see it all of the time. Foreign guys come here and have a couple of bad experiences, then state that all Colombian chicks are possessive, jealous, and crazy.
If you ever hear that from a guy, make sure to ask him what his experience with women in his own country has been. Odds are he has had the same experience with women in his own country or very little experience with women as a whole. Instead of trying to figure women out I’ve focused on becoming the best version of myself possible, and that has proven to be what women are attracted to.
I’m looking forward to an amazing 2018 here in Medellin, Colombia.
Finca Party – March 12, 2018
It’s been nearly three months since my last update. A lot has happened in these first three months of 2018. I’m still seeing “D” (aka Puchas) and it’s been good. We both work during the week so we only see each other on weekends. I’ve been busy with Red Door Studios. We just moved to a bigger, better office. And all my basketball tournaments (3 of them) are in full swing. So I’m pretty busy.
One of my favorite things to do in Medellin with my friends is to rent out a finca (country home) and have a weekend party. That’s exactly what we did last weekend. About 30 of us rented out a big finca (apparently it is owned by drug dealers or was owned by narcos, I don’t know) and had an awesome party. It’s customary for Colombians to go away to small towns and party at fincas. So if you’re in Medellin, it’s pretty much a must.
We found our giant finca in Santa Fe de Antioquia on this website: http://alquifincas.com/.
We rented a bus. Half of us met at Hija Mia Cafe, where the bus picked us up and took us to the finca in Santa fe de Antionquia, about an hour and a half away from Medellin.
The finca was huge. The best part was the pool
I’m still doing the 100 push up a day challenge. I’m on day 321, so of course, I had to do my 100 pushups a little hungover, on Sunday:
UPDATE #10 – 07/10/18 – Alone Again, Naturally
It’s been four months since I updated and for good reason. I ended things with Dani and have been very busy with work. Let me rephrase that. I ended things with Dani and buried myself in work. Whenever I’m stressed, or feeling down, I dive into my work in order to not think about things.
I don’t think it’s the healthiest way to go about handling negative feelings, but it’s not terrible. I mean now my business is doing the best it has…well….ever. And that’s awesome. My clients and team are very happy.
As for women, I think I’m ready to start making moves.
Apart from work, I go to the gym 3 times a week and play basketball 3 times a week. There’s this girl at the gym that I’m interested in. I see her there every now and then. I have not approached her yet for a couple of reasons.
- I’m being a pussy
- I’m being a pussy
Haha, I literally just sat here evaluating why I haven’t talked to her. I was thinking: she always looks busy at the gym, there’s never a chance, no one wants to be bothered at the gym, she probably has a boyfriend, etc, etc. But in reality, it’s just my own insecurities holding me back.
So I’ve decided to write this:
- I promise that the very next time I see her in the gym I’m going to approach her.
I will update on what happens right after.
Update #11 – 02/01/19 – I Dated Rol for 4 Months
I’ve been putting this update off for a while. Namely, because I had been dating someone.
It all started when my brother’s girlfriend set me up with one of her friends (Rol) on Love & Friendship Day (September 15, 2018).
We all met at a live music bar near Parque Poblado in the evening. A few other friends were there too, so I didn’t think much of it.
When I walked into the place I saw where they were sitting. I walked up I introduced my self, said hi to everyone else at the table, handed everyone a piece of chocolate (I passed a candy store on the way and thought I’d just get everyone a bar of vegan chocolate), and sat down right next to Rol.
I proceeded to order drinks for my brother, his girlfriend, and Rol.
As the live music started and the drinks started rolling I asked Rol to dance. The music was salsa. and she said she didn’t know how to dance salsa. So I proceeded to teach her some of the basic steps.
We had a lot of fun doing that.
As it got later, the music got dirtier. They went from salsa to reggaeton. Rol had no problem shaking her booty to Reggeaton, which was great.
Eventually, we kissed and exchanged information.
Rol is a great woman. She’s 25, works for a major communications company, studied philosophy, and is going for a master’s degree.
After a few dates, she introduced me to her family. They are a middle-class family living in a nice apartment complex with a pool and bbq area. They are super friendly and great to be around.
It felt really good to be in a committed relationship after so long.
Netflix and sangria on Sunday in Medellin
Fast forward to four months later…
I swear that I’m going to find a therapist.
One day, I woke up and thought, “I don’t want to be in a relationship anymore!”
The spark that I felt before was gone. It wasn’t anything that Rol did. I just wanted to get out and do my thing, alone. I immediately told Rol how I felt.
She took it badly. She was deep, and it hurt her very much. Not only that, but she told me, “you’re a rock with no heart.”
I felt like shit.
The day after, Rol said that she felt better and still wanted to be friends.
It’s a week after the breakup, and I feel better about it, and I’m confident that no matter what happens, Rol and I will continue being friends.
As for dating other girls?
It’s too soon.
I’ll give it a month and update again.
Update #12 – 05/31/19 – Single and Ready to Mingle
I’ve been single for four months now. Being single in Medellin is pretty fun. As you’ve read in my Medellin Nightlife blog post, going out and meeting girls is not very hard (as long as you speak some Spanish). Throughout my almost nine years here in Medellin I’ve met girls during the day at various places. In this update, I will go over some places where I’ve met some attractive women during the day.
I personally do not like to go shopping. But there are those times where I need to go for some reason, it usually involves me going to the sports store to buy basketball gear.
I don’t know about you, but I fall in love whenever I go to the Mall. The amount of beautiful women is pretty ridiculous.
The last time I went to a mall was three weekends ago. I went to the Viva Envigado Mall for a Craft Beer Festival they held on the top floor. I went with my friends Juan and Joel. Our friend Nathan (Australian) had a booth there promoting his beer Aburra Valley Brewing Co, which is excellent.
We got our mugs and started to walk around from booth to booth, trying various beers.
As we were walking, I caught the smell of freshly made popcorn. I found the popcorn machine, and at the helm was a very beautiful young lady. This girl could have been on T.V. or in a magazine. Instead, she was working a popcorn machine.
I had to say hi.
It turns out that she’s Venezuelan, owns 6 of those popcorn machines, and goes to events to sell. That very weekend she had a couple of girls working at the big book fair at the Botanical Gardens.
Andrew, Juan & Joel at the craft beer festival.
She didn’t give me her phone number. Furthermore, she told me she had a boyfriend when I asked for it. I’m pretty sure she was lying. This is why I look sad in the picture, lol.
Regardless, I told her I was happy for her and her “boyfriend” was a lucky guy.
In all seriousness, rejection is a big part of being single. At least, it is for me. And I’m ok with that. There are so many females in Medellin, that having a girl reject me shouldn’t get me down. At least I went down swinging, and I don’t have to lie down to bed at night with regret.
Centro Comercial Viva Envigado is one of my favorite malls, along with Santafe, Oviedo, and Unicentro.
Downtown (El Centro)
Downtown Medellin is a freakshow. You’ll see people from all walks of life there. I used to live in downtown and that was fun. The sheer mass of people allows for some gorgeous women.
Many of these gorgeous women are from other parts of the city. So talking to them and getting to know their background is fun.
On May 25, 2019, my friends and I had another famous Finca Weekend. Whenever we have one of these big bashes I go downtown to buy alcohol and party supplies.
Rolling with a tall, bald, athletic Canadian black guy (Joel), and a tall athletic, long-haired, bearded, blue-eyed gringo (Kyle) helps attract attention.
And since we’re speaking English and laughing at everything along the way making new friends is easy.
I love walking down Junin street. It’s a pedestrian street that runs a few blocks. It’s full of shops and restaurants. Typically, it’s easier to talk to women working at a store, but it’s also pretty easy to talk to women.
While downtown, I met an attractive female at one party supply store. I told her we were having a Going Away Finca Party for Kyle. She was interested in him, like most women here are. Good thing he’s already taken.
Anyway, I invited her to the finca party, and she said she could go. We exchanged contacts, and she ended up coming along with us.
Throw a Party
This may not be a good solution for everyone since it can be costly to throw a party. I don’t like to throw parties and ask my friends to give me a bunch of money. When I was broke I never threw parties. Nowadays, I throw one every other month.
Sometimes the party will take place at a club, and sometimes it’ll be at a Finca at a pueblo on the outskirts of Medellin.
This month the finca party took place in the pueblo of San Jeronimo. It’s about an hour south of Medellin and it’s hotter, so most fincas have a pool.
We rented a 35-person finca (country home) with a pool and invited all of our close friends. Since all the guys pay for everything (I even got a 35-person bus to shuttle us from Medellin to the finca) it makes it easy for girls to say yes when invited.
Here are some pics from this month’s finca party.
Finca San Jeronimo May 25 2019
Tailgating at the finca.
Chillin in the pool
Dance party in the pool. That’s me in the hat getting into the middle of the dance circle.
Sunday morning hangover in the pool.
For fucks sake! I LOVE my country!
Poolside at the finca.
I’ve learned that meeting people and making long-lasting friendships is the best way to meet even more people.
I consider my friends to be of high quality. Therefore, the people that I meet through them are going to be pretty awesome, too.
Update #13 – 09/24/19 – Forgive and Forget
It’s been 4 months since my last update.
In the last four months, I got back with Rol, then broke up again.
I broke up with her again because I found out that she and a friend (what I thought was a friend) of mine messed around in the period that we were broken up.
I didn’t mind the fact that they hooked up. I mean, we were broken up, and whom she decided to mess with wasn’t my business.
What I disliked was the lying by both parties. Some things were left out from the story that I later found out made me feel horrible.
- When Rol asked my so-called friend, let’s call him, Fake, if we were friends, he allegedly told her that we weren’t. Of course, she felt more comfortable after that. So it makes me feel like he “gamed” her just to fuck her.
- When I asked Rol if she knew that Fake was my friend when she hooked up with him, she said no, but then later, I found out that she did know because she had seen me talking to Fake at the gym and had seen pictures of Fake and me at parties on social media, etc.
As you may know, I’ve dated many women, but I’m old-school regarding relationships (romantic and friendships). Both disrespected me; therefore, they shouldn’t be in my life anymore.
Writing this shit out serves as therapy.
My conclusion is to forgive and forget.
I’m going to focus on the positive times I spent with both Rol and Fake and move on…without them in my life.
On that note…
Let’s Talk About Positive Shit
It’s almost October, and that means Maridaje and Halloween!
What is Maridaje?
Maridaje is a Wine and Food tasting event starting October 3rd at Plaza Mayor (Medellin’s convention center) every year. You pay a cover (which may include a wine glass unless you bring your own), and you walk around to different wine booths where you can learn and taste their wines.
After an hour or two, you’re pretty tipsy and, hopefully, have made new friends.
OktoberFest in Medellin
Believe it or not, there’s an OktoberFest in Medellin. It’s been getting bigger year after year.
It starts on October 5th and it’s held at the Orquidiorama section in the Botanical Gardens.
Medellin’s craft beer scene is growing and at OktoberFest you’ll find plenty of beer options. Furthermore, you’ll find food and entertainment. I recommend you get tickets early because last year they sold out.
Halloween in Medellin
Halloween is fun in Medellin. Many discos are open and will do costume contests. And just like in the U.S. women take Halloween as an opportunity to turn any costume into a sexy outfit.
Many of the nightclubs in Lleras have Halloween costume parties that will probably go into Nov 1, and 2, since the 31st of October lands on Thursday.
I always have a blast dressing up and going out with friends on Halloween here in Medellin.
Nightclubs aren’t the only places to go to on Halloween. You can also go to Hostels. For example, The Wandering Paisa Hostel in Laureles usually has a Karaoke Costume Party every Halloween, which is always a blast.
I hope you enjoyed this update. I’ll be updating again soon.
Soy Perro Pero De Raza – March 21, 2022
I haven’t updated in a long time on my dating life.
I’m now 41, and I haven’t had a steady girlfriend for over 3 years now, and I love it.
I have a steady rotation of women that I see and sleep with. To be honest, that’s the way I want it to be right now. Nothing serious, just fun, and positive vibes. Colombia is an excellent place for a single 41-year-old with exciting things going on that doesn’t want a serious relationship.
I’ve found that being honest is the best policy.
Like in business, I’m not particularly eager to waste my or anyone else’s time. If I meet a girl I’m interested in, and we start hooking up, I tell her I want to be friends.
Being friends and having sex is great until someone catches feelings.
This is why it’s good to be open and honest. Once I start seeing that they’re catching feelings, I tell them we can’t see each other for a while.
Taking a break is always a good idea, no matter how good the sex is.
It allows for them to take a step back and realize that I’m not going to go to the next level with them, and it gives me time to chill. I’ve had to block some girls. Not only because they write me to “hang out” but because it’s hard to say no.
This has been the extent of my dating life for the past 3 years.
I’ve been working very hard on my digital marketing company, which took off a few years ago and continues to do well.
My business partner and I have also purchased a few apartments here in barrio Manila. We gut them, remodel them, and put them on Airbnb. That business has been doing well too.
Also, we have established a non-profit organization, Help Colombia, where we go into underserved, poor neighborhoods here in Medellin, and help with education, shelter, nutrition, and community awareness.
This has changed my life. I really do feel that serving people is my calling in life.
Furthermore, Joel and I do the Colombia Podcast. That’s an enjoyable project that’s gained traction. We do various episodes every month.
Finally, I’ve started my own brand called Life Hacks with Andrew. I do a live episode every single day and upload recorded/edited content every other day.
I guess you can see I’m a workaholic. So I’m not really in search of a steady girlfriend. If it happens, it happens, but right now, I’m having a ton of fun working on my projects, going out with friends, sleeping around, and living life.
I’ve been motivated to reignite this blog, so I’ll post my sexcapades more often.
If you go to this blog you’ll see that I love to write about many different topics. Not surprisingly, this post generates 80% of all of my website’s traffic. The keyword: “Colombian women” is searched over 40,000 times a month, and this blog post is now on the first page of results.
It is not my intention to degrade or generalize Colombian women. I find that dating in Medellin is an interesting topic, and I think I have a unique view.
Medellin is a beautiful city with a lot to offer. Unfortunately, its reputation precedes itself, and most people think it’s just a place to find hot, beautiful, easy women, but when they get here, they’re faced with a harsh reality. I intend to show how these stereotypes are not true, how diverse dating can be in Medellin, and of course, how interesting the Paisa woman is.
I think I covered some very relevant basics here. Still, if you’re actively meeting women in Medellin (or would like to start), Dating Medellin has produced an excellent course that covers everything. I highly recommend it.
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About the writer – Andrew Macia
My name is Andrew Macia, and the Medellin Buzz is my blog. I moved to Medellin in 2010 and fell in love with the city. I taught advanced-level English for four years and then started a digital marketing agency.
About the Medellin Buzz
I love Colombia! I started the Medellin Buzz as a resource for my English as a foreign language students. A site where they could read about their city in English wasn’t boring. It slowly turned into a personal blog and hub for information for people discovering Medellin. I check comments frequently, so please leave your comments and/or questions below.
In Medellin you will also find a lot of beautiful, smart women who have their own business or work independently.
Do you have any data to back this up? I don’t think that anyone who lives in Medellin, Paisa or extranjero would agree there are a lot.
Good question. I don’t have any actual cencus data to back this up. This post is about my personal experience. I have found many, and see many every day here in downtown. Teaching English to 18 to 30 year olds has made me more aware of that group of women as well.
I wouldn’t say it’s the majority, but I’ve definitely known what I would consider “a lot” of women in that category.
i totaly agree with that! I by myself fund exat one of these girls!By casualty but i think more or less he s right in what he sais.
Maybe you forgot that a bunch of the “girls”
are already mothers.
Well done like it!
Must you be able to speak Spanish to teach English there? It may sound odd but many places this is not a requiement. Who do you work for
No speaking Spanish is not a requirement. Most private institutions like it when a native English teacher doesn’t speak Spanish, in order to challenge the students.
Really interesting post! I’m curious, Where/how can one get a English teaching job? How long does one have to teach?
Competition for teaching jobs is growing and growing here in Medellin. Not only are there more foreigners wanting to teach, but there are also many Colombians, not only from Medellin, but from nearby cities. Universities and private institutions alike require credentials. Whether it is a pedagogy degree or an English teaching certification like the TESOL or CELTA they usually require something. As for applying for a teaching job showing up and hounding the director or the person in charge of hiring is key. Most of the time you need to know someone working at the place, having an “in” is a big thing here. If you do not have an “in” you must be persistent. There are more than 100 private English institutions here in Medellin, so there is an opportunity. As for wages, most private institutions hire teachers as independent contractors for part time or full time work. Some smaller institutions are poorly managed and getting paid on time can be an issue. If you’re organized at all, with a little marketing and hustle you can start doing private classes until you land a decent job.
My name is Rick. I live in Chicago. I am originally from India. I visited Cali and Kartagena 3 months and now coming to Medellin on octo 28. I love the Colombian girls and their style so here I am. Thank you for your experience sharing in Medellin. I. Would like to get to know the local culture by mingling with locals so can I spend few hours in your English class to experience the local way of life ? Possibly go disco dancing with few of your fiends but of course all drinks are on me. I am not really interested in strip clubs or etc
Hi Rick, sorry for the late reply, but it looks like you’re still in town. I’m having one of my big language exchanges this Friday, November 6th. You should come, it’s a great way to practice your Spanish, help locals practice their English, and of course meet people. Here’s the event on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/events/929175333842152/. See ya.
Hi Rick, that’s awesome, one of my good friends, who is also Indian, lives in Chicago! Well feel free to hit me up when you get here!
Lol Rick makes me laugh, No one is really interested in Indians from India, I guarantee you my head on a block, Colombians don’t mingle nor like Indians because of there sink, My gf is in Colombia and we actually laugh over Indians.
Yes Mike, you are correct there are ignorant, racist people all over the world, including Medellin…as you have proved. However, Rick, I do have a few friends that are Indian that have managed to make lots of friends and actually run businesses and lead a successful life here in Medellin: Sidhartha, owner of the restaurant Curry (https://www.facebook.com/CurryIndianCuisine/) being one of them.
Don’t let a couple bad apples ruin the bunch. People in Medellin are very friendly and are generally accepting of foreigners in their city.
If you look beyond the “gringo hunter” type of chics that are usually found around Lleras, you’ll be amazed how many working and independant paisa girls are around. They are just not usually interested on gringos, which is why they are not easily found by foreigners. Just to give you an example, there is about 3,000 registered hair salons and beauty supply shops in Medellin, and most of them are owned by women.
That’s a really good point. Most of the girls I know, and meet are not girls from Parque Lleras, Poblado, Rio Sur, or La Strada. As a matter of fact the only times I’ve had one night stands have been with girls I’ve met in those places. Thanks for the comment.
Well I have one so yeah I don’t know about a lot but they so exist.
The only data that u shut pay attention about Medellin is that if you are an American you are a prime($$$) walking target for common criminals and organize crime… And they use good looking girls to get to you!!!
What kind of scare tactic is this? Yes there are bad people here, but crime occurs everywhere in the world. If you’re not a fool you can easily avoid being targeted for crime.
SCARE TACTIC, REALLY MAN ??
SO THE PASEO MILLONARIO I GOT IN MEDELLIN IN 2015 WAS AN SCARE TATIC ??
BRO WEAKE UP YOU ARE LIVING IN COLOMBIA NOT IN LALA LAND!!
Ah that really sucks. I can see why you’re traumatized. My friends and I (all entrepreneurs) have been living here for over 6 years now. Not one has had that happened to them. There are also another 2,000 + foreigners living in Medellin and surrounding area…I would speculate that a very low percentage have been done dirty. Rule number one…if a girl looks out of your league, she’s probably going to do you dirty.
I’ve found this method of kidnap and ransom common in alot of third world cultures I’ve visited, Vietnam, Thailand, Cambodia, Philippines, Colombia, Brazil, this sort of thing happens ever where, so you have to just play it safe. One thing common here in the Philippines is you meet a girl online, and she’ll invite you to her place where it’s actually a ambush, they will hold you up steal your stuff and if your lucky leave you alive, so it’s all in how you handle yourself in these places, another one is syndicates in law enforcement, they will use a girl to lure a foreigner in, then she will scream rape, the police show up in an instant but will tell the foreigner they will let him go if he will pay their demands, if he doesn’t he will find himself in jail here, kidnap and ransom are common things for western nationals around the world sad to say, especially in poor countries, nothing new about that. Another scheme is planting drugs on you and then. And when the police are involved your not innocent until proven guilt your punished until you pay LOL. I’ve heard horror stories of foreigners building lavish houses then once the house is done having their girlfriends break up with them and kick them to the curb, guys getting murdered by jeolous brothers, but true crime happens everywhere.
It worth the risk to be with gorgeous ladies.
Trust is something you build in time especially with money and womens.
I love this blog brother Andrew! I live in the magical city of Orlando, Florida. I will be going to get my Celta certification in Medellin in January 2019.
I love Colombian women! My guys and I travel frequently to Colombia to relax and vacation. We are all a bunch of crazy Americans! If you don’t mind me asking, what happened with you and your girl Dani? You seemed to really like her a lot bro.
I spent 2-1/2 months in Medellin last summer. I think it is pitiful that you cannot write something less shallow about such a beautiful, vibrant city than how to pick up Medellin women! Everyone knows the women there are beautiful and easy to meet and date. And that they love foreigners, even though you are Colombian. How about the gastronomy, culture, events, music?? THAT would be much more helpful to those who want to experience Medellin. To go there looking for women is pathetic and gives US men a really bad name – kind of like the incident with the Secret Service in Cartagena. Really??!!
I have written about all of those topics. If you look through my blog all of those topics are covered, even history (my associates and I are tour guides here in Medellin), but this is the topic that gets the most attention. With all due respect I think you’re getting worked up over nothing. I think my post is probably one of the least offensive and paints the Medellin woman in a positive light.
I think it paints them as easy pick-ups. Maybe most of your readers are men if this topic gets the most attention. I’m not “worked up” at all – it was my opinion of your blog. As I mentioned, it’s just a very shallow topic, but maybe what your male readers look for – I don’t know.
I completely respect your opinion and value your input. I would like to continue writing about relationships in Medellin, so I’d like to ask you what in particular did you perceive as shallow? The topic of dating in Medellin? The fact that I prefer women who are professional? Thanks again for your comment.
You are doing a great job. Just remember you can’t satisfy everyone.
Thanks Kerry. 🙂
It is very easy to safe yourself a peace of mind. Just do not read, and of course, do not judge things you are opposing naturally. By the way, ”easy pick-ups” you may call ”open minded” or ” deprived of prejudices”, whatever the choice is yours.
“Easy pick ups”means that this Colombian
Woman have desperd financial
Needs and money is the only good thing they see on this
losers that they cant not get late in their own countries. (:
In N. America women say they got HIT On. In Colombia they call it meeting someone. This might be why Americans talk about it…cause the women are not like you, and a lot of other American uptight women. Good Luck.
And this is the reason why most guys including myself don’t date American women because 95% of them have this same sistah attitude like this woman here making a mountain from a molehill..
They like attention so much and when they see other women especially cute women who are not fake like them nor have this man like attitude like them getting all the attention they get pissed off and nitpick every little thing out of frustration.
If y’all change your attitudes and stop trying to be the man in the relationship then you will start getting back the good men fleeing to Phillipines and Colombia.
Truth.. If that is how you feel then more power to you. I don’t see the grand nor exalted reason for wanting to be in any relationship either so that wouldn’t be a problem for me..
Life is about living the way you feel is right for you..
I just wanna have fun and get a relief whenever my cup overflows so I wouldn’t have a problem even if they’re married as I’m not there nor in life to find a wife(misery)..
I pay my dues when she comes over to provide for me and we’re cool.
Problem with men is that they become too attached to the female specimen..
True that, you couldn’t give me 100 American chicks for one filippino girl, they really spoil a man from the west here, I went back to the states in 2014 and met some chicks in a bar there and felt like I was talking to men that at some point became quickly argumentative and confrontational, must boring experience of my life, American women just have no clue how to please a man Complete waste of time even trying to make contact with them, plus they’ve been drilled by every man in town but present themselves as some superficial angelic being, what a joke
If you would like my perspective for your next article, let me know!
Yes Daniel, email it over to me. firstname.lastname@example.org
First i would like to say that it is a great issue to write about.
I gor to tell you the truth, when i read this post i got the feeling you would like to talk about your self a lil too much. And i, as someone that also live in medellin, i dont think the things are as you describe. The avarage girls will expect you to pay for everything, spescialy the texi. The kind of girls are you describe are exsisted, and i know them as well, but they are not common. The high quality girls wouldnt be that fascinated from the gringos. Normaly the low level will.
Try to write less about your stories and to bring more facts that connected to reality.
Hi Another Anonymous, thanks for the constructive criticism. I will work on getting more actual facts. The real fact is that I don’t like doing that. I rather speak about my own experiences, but I guess you are right; when writing about delicate issues like gender and relationships one should have some stats. Thanks again.
I am 60. I date 50 to 60 YO or so. Often they find me as fascinating as I find them. It is often a great experience.
I´m one of those smart independent women that you are talking about and I really appreciate this article, it´s good to know that there are guys out there who appreciate more than a hot body or beautiful face… I don´t like when people stereotypes women in Medellin based on certain type of women (whom I respect as much as any other person)but that is just a parcial sample of paisa women.
I am Spanish tutor for foreigners in case someone is interested.. I´ll share this post with my students 🙂
That’s great Mony. I’m glad you liked the article. Feel free to put your contact information and/or website link here, so that people can find you.
Thanks Andrew this is my contact info:
Women who fall for the “Alpha Male” then end up alone and stranded and probably with kids hopefully will be wiser the second time around. Women who like a man who is not nice need a psychologist. Live and learn and is this not why so many Colombian women think the men are all cheaters and then seek foreign men? Live and learn or error again? I hope not!
Colombian men cheat is because Colombian women the same one who say thier jealous are the ones also they cheat with .. a man with four kids and no money usually cheats with Nieghbor or his wife’s girlfriend friends and his wife that other men cheated with .
Hi andrew. I ve been following your posts lately. I just have to say you “change minds” even paisas minds as mine.
I am too glad that a foreigner people as you write such a beutiful things about our city.
thanks a lot and I am looking foward to attend one of yor conversatories.
Espero que no haya cometido muchos errores. hablo español, soy paisa y estudio ingles por mi cuenta.
Hi Jhon, thanks a lot. I look forward to meeting you at our next Conversation Club Cocktail Party.
I have been reading your posts and I am happy to see an honest approach to life there and to hear such a positive outlook on life there with your personal experiences. I definitely have a interest in visiting Medellin soon and exploring life and business there.
Your Conversation Club Cocktail Party sounds intriguing.
Hi Stacey, thanks for the positive feedback. Medellin is a great place to be, but then again a positive mind can make any place a great place. You gotta come see it to make it your own. I hope to meet you when you get down here.
I am an older(60+)educated American with a guaranteed income of about $4500/mo. I am totally interested in living in a city outside the US that will allow me more for my money and is friendly to Americans just looking to integrate into their lifestyle and culture. Not being discriminated against for being 60 is also important. American women treat older guys like they don’t exist. I am healthy fit and handsome. Is Medellin worth giving a shot. I love the idea of teaching English. I taught high school for a few years. Thanks for any and all responses. BTW. I am blue-eyed white guy and unfortunately don’t look Columbian.
Hi Hollis. Medellin should definitely be on your list of cities to consider. In regards to ageism in the dating world here. I really wouldn’t be of great help in this department. There is, however, ageism for work here. It is very rare to see anyone over 40 years old working. Since you were a teacher you could perhaps work at a university, but you have a fair warning. BTW being a blue-eyed white guy works to your advantage here.
Thanks Andrew. Encouraging words and nice to hear. I’m thinking teaching also as a way to get involved and participate in the lives of the kind of people I’m interested in getting to know. I know some rudimentary Spanish that I would love to build on. Given any opportunity I think I can handle the dating scene.
Yeah, I think you’ll do fine dating, it’s the, finding a job, part that is tougher. But if you’re committed you’ll find it.
Thank you very much for sharing your experiences without advertising for some dating site or other. It makes you much more credible.
I’m about to go on early retirement. I’m 45 and decent looking for my age. I’ll have an income of about $2,700 a month. I’m not an alpha male. I used to be quite confident in myself, but now I’m probably more considered as soft spoken. I’m adventurous in physical aspects of life but timid in the social sphere.
I was wondering if alpha males are generally what Medellin women want or if there’s a similar diversity as there is here in Scandinavia where I live? I’m thinking about moving to Colombia due to the climate and the lower living costs. However, I’d like to find steady a living partner. How easy is it finding one, if I’m past the dancing scene? And holding on to her if she happens to be attractive?
Thanks for the comment. I write based on my experience and my personality. Alpha males are not all that Medellin women look for. Medellin has all types of women, so finding yourself a woman with the qualities you like is possible. I encourage you to come and test the waters. If you do visit Medellin make sure that you come for at least a month or two because most respectable women take a while to warm up to. You’re 45, your in the prime of your life! There are so many things to do and see here. You’ll have a great time.
Thank you for the awesome post.
I heard k-pop is huge in Medellin or in Colombia in general.(or South America.)
I have heard from my Korean-American friends who went to Colombia for certain business projects and have told me that they treat you, “Chinos”, like some celebrity.
He told me a lot of young college aged Colombian girls would come up to you and ask to take pictures with them and etc. (I’m a Korean-American as well.)
I have plans on visiting many countries in 2015 and Colombia is one of the country I will visit for sure!!
I love food so food adventure will be the number one priority to venture Colombia but not alone. I also have interest on meeting a local beautiful Colombian woman, not prostitutes, and find some romance at the same time too.
Will I have a chance to do so??
Yo MKO, the short answer is yes, you have a chance at finding romance in Colombia. I have a couple of Asian American friends here and they’ve found girlfriends here. I wouldn’t say that K-Pop is huge, but yes there are many girls who like it. I teach English and there is always a couple of students who love K-Pop or Korean soaps. As for being treated like a celebrity, yes Colombians love foreigners and are always curious, so don’t get offended if they comment on your eyes or your language, they don’t do it with the intent to offend.
hey Andrew! I love your article, it’s very interesting.
I used to be your student, so I Know some things about you… you’re an excellent person and an excellent teacher.
I just wanted to say it!!!
I admire you alot… my best wishes
Carol, thank you! You have definitely been one of my best students. It was fun being your teacher.
Nice post Andrew, very interesting.
im a california native thinking of traveling to medellin. how can i contact you? i found your article to be straight forward, honest, and definitely one of the less offensive on this particular subject. well done.
Hi Stephen, thanks! Yeah Medellin is great. The only thing missing is the beach, I used to live in Huntington Beach. It’s always great to hang with fellow Californians here. Hit me up when you’re down here, you can email me at email@example.com.
29 higher level independent dose not make you more valuable . The reason when you were younger you chased the alpha Colombian .Rode the carousel and just like most women finally when the ride is over and the wall hit most women try to lock down a beta provider men . The same men she would not even stare at her prime know are the ones she is willing to settle for . To the Colombian man you wanted they saw no value in you so you had no choice and merry a forginer because I he is beta male
And you sold him the value thing . A women highest value and great gift to offer is her youth to a man but they give it away for free and later find betas males with same saying independent. Intelligent . Not to high value men to beta yes
First of all, I’m enjoying reading your blog. It’s giving me details on specific things that other non natives have provided on Medellin so hopefully you can give me some advice.
I’m planning on coming over in September to teach English, I work here in Scotland for a national newspaper (www.scotsman.com) but realistically, I can only really see me getting a job as a TEFL teacher.
I’ll be coming with roughly $4500 – Is this enough to give me a ‘cushion’ whilst looking for work?
Second question: I’m only learning Spanish now, is it expensive getting a local tutor?
Final question: Just to keep with the theme of your blog. Im a blue eyed Scotsman, is it worth my while bringing my kilt or is that trying too hard with the local ladies? Haha.
Keep up the good work!
I’m sorry for the late response dude. Got caught up with work. Anyway, my advice is:
1. Being certified and having worked for the ScotsMan.com I don’t think you’ll have a hard time finding for a job. Getting a job in Colombia, is cool at first, because you’re in a new city, with new colleagues, you gotta take the public transport, etc. It’s all exciting, but after a few months you might get bored, and then your pay might take precedence. I think the key would be for you to get into a good paying position. I’m an entrepreneur here, and there are many groups and a large expat community of entrepreneurs that can help you find other opportunities too.
2. $4,500 is a good cushion, if you don’t live in Poblado. I recommend living in a lower income level yet safe neighborhood first, once you get your bearings and cashflow up you can get into some of the more expensive neightborhoods. I’ve lived in Floresta, San Diego, Centro, Calazans, and they’re all affordable, safe, and near public transport.
3. Bring the Kilt! People love cultural items, especially if it’s something way different than what they are used to here. So it’ll be an immediate conversation piece. If other foreigners hate on you for it, fuck em’, and rock it. I’m sure you’ll be a hit with the locals.
Go for it, Michael. They will love the kilt. I am also Scottish and lived in Lima in the 1980s and it was certainly ‘vale la pena’ (well worth while) to wear the kilt and learn EFL and, of course, Spanish (or as they call it, castellano).
I am going to Colombia within the next year and am really looking forward to it. I’m sure you will also find the women more attractive than in the UK (especially in Scotland).
Vaya con suerte (Go with luck)
I just want to question, and what is the better place to know girls?
I understand your questions, but in English we don’t know people, we “meet” them. So the questions should be: “I just want to ask what’s the best place to meet girls?”
Answer: The best place to meet girls in Medellin…is…well…anywhere. The supermarket, the library, the metro, at a bar, dancing, etc. Paisas are very friendly people, so anywhere you approach someone and just ask a question or spark up a conversation you’ll be treated in a warm manner.
Andrew ,this is the best blog I have had the pleasure to read. lets see if I can verbalize my story. and tell me what you think. I met a Medellin girl on a dating website. we clicked very fast. and to make a long story short. She invited down to Medellin Colombia. I speak Spanish ,I would say as a second language. I was a NYPD Detective and I just retired. Here is my story. my girlfriend met me at the airport in Rio Negro. We were shuttled off to a Hotel that my girlfriend picked out. I had no inpout in this choice. It was not in Poblado, for some reason we ended up on Carretera 70. Wall to wall little discos that are blasting music all night. In poblado I understand the Hotels are like $85.00 per night. I had to stay in Medellin for a month.
So I was stuck down by the metro near the stadium stop on Carrera 70. Being a Detective from NYPD I was kind of anxious being the only gringo in this disco area. There is like 30 disco’s in area. I know that they know that I was a Police Officer or DEA and they were right. I did work for the DEA in a task force, that’s another story.
I was told to take off my gold chain, gold watch, anything Gold, the Police roll in late or early in the morning in a military vehicle like 10-15 all together. To be honest with you Andrew I felt there was an unverbalized thing going on that you are not where you should be. plus my girlfriend and guys selling souvenirs in front of the hotel told me be careful.
I needed a guard from the Hotel to get monies from the cajero (ATM). Plus, of course my girlfriend shows me a video of 5-6 Colombian soldiers in a military jeep all shot through the head. my girlfriend is super jealous and protective. Your right about the jealousy, anyway, after they filled me with horror stories about being kidnapped, murdered or worse during the Pablo Escobar period. I was totally paranoid about even buying a beer solo at night.
Maybe they just psyched me out. I never did get to Poblado or any other nice area, only the malls. What is your opinion of that area down by Carrera 70. I have to go back and get my now “fiance” for her interview. but the girls are beautiful, sexy, sultry, the best looking girls in el mundo. Ja ja.
Andrew is it as dangerous as I perceived or am I just paronoid form my perception. I never heard the word drugs, nor did I ask about the mafia. Its just something you don’t talk about. With good reason. But upon arrival back in Miami the Border patrol agents took me into a room and gave me a complete search and investigation of what the hell I was doing in Medellin.
Even with my Police documents it wasn’t fun. To make matters worse I go to send my fiance some monies via Western Union, more then $1,800, to buy a cheap motor bike. and Western Union not only put a hold on the monies, but never notified me. I had to go and call them and they gave me the third degree. W
Why I was sending money to Medellin. To whom I was sending it. For what reason. What I was doing in Medellin.
I know the story. Miami was the money laundering capital during the Pablo Escobar era, but this is like 20 years ago. Anyway, they refused to release the monies in Colombia after an hour of investigation. What a total disgrace. Anyway that’s my story. If I had to do it over again , I would have went straight to Poblado and payed for a hotel.
I just think I was in the wrong place at the wrong time, but I have a beautiful fiance. And for her I probably would do it again, but its not for anyone who doesn’t speak or understand Spanish. Thanks for your time Andrew.
Wow what a great story. I hope it all turns out well with your new fiance. Here’s my take:
1. The neighborhood you were in is called Estadio it boarders the Laureles, Floresta, and Belen neighborhoods. Which are all decent neighborhoods. I lived in Floresta (Carrera 80) just a few blocks up. And I have a friend who owns the best Hostel in Medellin right there on la 70 about 6 blocks from the stadium, you might consider staying in one of the private rooms there next time (The Wandering Paisa Hostel).
2. Colombians are notorious for scaring the shit out of their foreign friends and/or family members when they get here. My own family tried to do it to me when I got here. Filled me with horror stories about foreigners getting mugged in plain daylight, getting taken on la vuelta millionaria (where they take you at gun point to different ATMs and make you withdraw money, etc). Luckily I have one awesome uncle who lives in Bogota and does business in downtown Bogota who told me that he’s been going to downtown Bogota for over 20 years and has not once been mugged or robbed. It’s all about being aware and getting the fuck out of a place whenever you feel uncomfortable. So yes your fiance and her friends were being way too over protective and scared you, that area by the stadium is fine, especially la 70 at night. The whole thing about traveling is that you have to be more on guard than you do in your own town in the U.S. You don’t have to travel very far from Miami to feel a little unsafe, just go to Hialeah.
3. $1,800 for a “cheap” mortorcycle?! That’s not cheap, you can buy 2 motorcycles for that price. $1,800 US is about $4’600.000 COL. She can buy a brand new AKT scooter (not cheap) for that price: http://www.aktmotos.com/motos/scooter/jet-5-r. Make sure you’re not getting into the typical trap with foreigners here, where they are sucked dry by a beautiful girl. Maybe she doesn’t want something cheap, which is usually the case with people…well all around the world, and she said “cheap” in an attempt to be humble. I’d put her to the test and tell her: “Mi amor, mira, encontre unas motos muy economicas por la pagina mercado libre, and send her this link: http://motos.mercadolibre.com.co/_PriceRange_0-4000000.” This site is like Craigslist.org. It’s where people put up used stuff for sale. You get great deals, but it’s just not new. If she comes back and says, “Ay no, eso usado no.” Then perhaps you’ll need to work on your communication because what she really wants is something new and not cheap. (I’m just speculating, maybe she never said the word cheap and you were assuming that $1,800 for a bike is cheap in Colombia.)
I hope I have been of some help or at least given you more insight. Let me know what happens.
Dear Andrew, how are you, hope you’re doing well? I read your article and I really enjoyed it and I got great information from it. I live in San Antonio, Tx and I’ve been to Cali Colombia on many occasions in the past. My girlfriend Angela lives in Medellin, we want to get engaged in October of this year, she is a size 8, but I can’t find its equivalent size here in the states. I was told not to order a ring from jewelry stores in Colombia, because I’ll get ripped off of my money and never see the ring. Is there any truth to that and what can I do?
Thanks for the comment. To be honest I don’t know anything about jewelry in Colombia. I suggest you pose the question on an expat group in Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/399805646793880/. You’ll probably get an answer from someone who has had that experience here already. There are a few big shopping centers and I’m sure that if you buy the ring at one of the stores in one of those shopping centers it’ll be fine. As far as price comparison to the states, I don’t know.
Congrats on getting married and good luck on the ring hunt.
hi firstly just want to say very good article, im english and looking to come to Medellin next year for travelling(around about 6 months or as long as im granted). i have a few questions to ask.
1.im happy to stay in hostels or really cheap flats/rooms so how much money would i need to at least save up for that time and also can you recommend any good, safe hostels to stay in?
2.if im over there and decide i would like to try and find a job am i applicable to obtain a work visa/if so is that easy to do so?
3.how many Spanish classes would i need to take before arrival?
First, thank you, I appreciate the positive feedback.
1. Hostels are relatively cheap here in Medellin. A couple of my favorites are: The Wandering Paisa Hostel (It’s located in a safe neighborhood called Laureles, near the stadium. It’s away from where most tourists are, but that adds to the adventure. It’s owned by my buddy from Seattle. Check em out Wandering Paisa Hostel.) If you want to be in the Poblado neighborhood, where most tourists are. A couple of my favorites are Geo Hostel (it’s relaxed, definitely not a party hostel) Buddha Hostel and Casa Kiwi (don’t let Casa Kiwi’s atrocious website bother you, it’s definitely a party hostel.) Take a look at their prices and you’ll be able to calculate what you need to save. You might get tired of the dorm life at the hostels. If so, you might want to check out some rooms for rent on Couch Surfing or on the many Facebook Groups. I would save up at least $3,000 to $5,000 for the six months. I don’t know how you travel and what you like to do, but money can fly here in Medellin because everything seems to be so cheap.
2. You could get a job and you could get a work visa. It depends on what your credentials are and what the job is. I have many friends who are here on work visas, so it is possible, but not easy. If I were you, I would start looking into that now, not when you get here. The process is usually long, so it’s best to get a head start.
3. Spanish is pretty critical here. Most of the population here does not speak English at all. So you need some basic Spanish, 2 months of intensive classes should be enough to get by, but I suggest you continue classes here, they’re not expensive, my friend Violet can help you with that. If you live in Poblado, in a hostel, you’ll probably be speaking in English a lot, but if you go anywhere out of the hostel i.e. restaurants, bars, dates, the metro, etc, you’ll be speaking in Spanish.
hi andrew, thanks for getting back so quick and taking the time to write back. i like the look of the geo hostel so i will probably stay there. im thinking possibly of coming to colombia to study spanish on a student visa as you can get up to a year(1 option im considering). a few more questions if you dont mind
1.are colombian women keen on english men? i love colombian women especially their mentality and loyalty so would be keen on possible romance(i know this as i have a colombian girl mate).
2. in terms of money would it be better to open an colombian bank account if im bringing say £10,000 pounds?
3. would i be safe carrying a bank card around while im there or is it best to leave it at home and take minimal cash out?
thanks again andrew. theres a lot of things i need to ask regarding colombia as i really want to go there and maybe live there in the future
Dude sorry for the late reply, I had some issues with the site and I’ve also been waaaay busy with my business that this is the first time in over a month that I log on, but I’m back on track now. Anyway, to answer your questions:
1. Yes. The great thing about Colombian women is that there is not just one type of guy that they like. I’ve met women that strictly like guys from their region and I’ve met women who only date foreigners. So you’ll find everything and I’m sure you won’t have a hard time meeting them as long as you’re patient and a gentleman.
2. It’s a good idea to open a Colombian bank account, just because it’s better (safer) to have that money in the bank instead of carrying around a bunch of cash. And when I say safer, I don’t mean that in Colombia people are just waiting to rob you, I mean anywhere in the world that you carry around 10,000 pounds you’ll be a target. The banks exchange rates are always fluctuating, so I’d consult that first before opening the account.
3. Carrying a bank card is fine. Especially if you’re staying El Poblado or anywhere near there. It’s unsafe to carry one around if you’re getting wasted drunk and walking around town at 4:00 a.m.
I hope this info helps.
Hi.. What a great article and blog. Thanks for the amazing insight. It’s really helpful and the honesty is greatly appreciated.
Just had a couple of questions. I will be visiting Medellin with 3 other Puerto Rican friends in November. We will be staying at am apartment we rented in El Poblado. What recommendations do you have in regards to restaurants, bars, clubs to go to. Also, what safety issues should we keep in mind while in the area. Thanks
Hey Jaime, thanks for the comment. If you’re staying in El Poblado, you’ll be fine hanging out in Parque Lleras, there are plenty of good restaurants (one of the best is Carmen), bars and clubs. I actually wrote a nightlife post that you might find helpful: My Medellin Nightlife. In regards to safety, El Poblado is one of the safest neighborhoods in Medellin, just don’t go taking taxi cabs to the barrio for late night “pick-ups” or walking home at 4:00 a.m., the $4,500 peso ride home is well worth it.
Muchas gracias por la información. Es nuestra primera vez en Medellín así que estamos buscando lo más información que podamos.
Uno nunca sabe… Tal vez nos encontremos de casualidad en uno de los bares/pubs pescando chicas 😉
Are there any christian churches such as Pentecostal and Baptist churches in Middellin ? How many members & how many yous is attending ?
Sacramento, I haven’t a clue, but I did Google it for you: http://lmgtfy.com/?q=iglesia+pentecostal+medellin
Just reading these comments and how you respond to them (especially negative ones) gives me a good sense of the kind of person you are. Your students must feel very lucky to have you.
I’m an EFL teacher myself (of 10+ years), with a web-based translation business on the side. Like you, I continue to do it because I love it and can’t give it up, even while other (more lucrative) things try to pull me away.
If you ever make it to Fukuoka, Japan, look me up and I’ll show you around.
Hi Caleb, thank you for your kind words and invitation. I most definitely will make my way to Japan, awesome to know someone over there. Likewise, if you’re ever in Medellin, hit me up!
Will do. Find me on fb or post another reply here if/when you do make it over here. 🙂
Soy Miguel se Seattle. Soy Chicano. I just returned from Medellin and Quilla for carnival and found the women in Colombia difficult to deal with or interact unless handled them with kid gloves. I’d actually like to connect via phone and discuss a second trip there but consider an agency to pre screen women who are looking for a serious relationship to someone from USA. Can you hit me up ?
Hola Miguel, yes, for the most part women way more feminine than those in the U.S. and more high maintenance. Which is why I love them. As for a dating agency, I’ve never used one, therefore, I don’t have any recommendations. I have, however, used ColombiaCupid.com and have had success and I also have friends who have found long term relationships (one who just got married). Regardless, if you’d like to chat, it’s no problem. Feel free to add me on Facebook.
I tried to send you an e-mail message on your e-mail address that you indicated in this blog, but it bounced back stating that Google tried to deliver your message, but it was rejected.
I had some questions that I wanted to ask you via e-mail only, but the e-mail message was not delivered to the e-mail address that you indicated in the blog. The e-mail address that I used to send the e-mail message to you was: firstname.lastname@example.org.
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Hey Andrew.I’m from California.I tried Colombian cupid.Got average responses.A dating expert told me,that only the average Colombian women use the site.And the top most beautiful women did not.Is that true? Recently I met a women,from Medellin.Shes smart,attractive,juiciosa,funny.I enjoy spending time with her.She recently had breast implants.Is that common in Medellin? She seems to be so concern about her body.I never met a women in USA,so concern about that.A few weeks ago,I found out that shes a cam girl model in Colombia.That really got me upset.A lot of perverts try to contact her.Being that you live in Medellin.Do you know women who work as cam girls? Cause this women,seems like a great person.Is just the cam thing,that bothers me.Even though she assure me,its only to pay for her studies.Not even her mom knows about it.Is this usual in Medellin? It bothers me,that all the perverts bother her all the time.Theres a lot of guys,interested in her.Shes use to being told how beautiful she is.But besides this,me cae bien.Any advice? knowing that you live in medellin for a while now.And know the way of life there.Should I keep seeing her? or should I find someone else?
Hi Phil, thanks for the comment. Let me answer your questions to the best of my abilities:
1. Not all Colombian women are on Colombian Cupid there are more than 20 million women in Colombia, therefore, not all are on there…or have even heard of the site.
2. Plastic surgery in Colombia is low cost (in comparison to the US and other countries) and the level of quality can be very good, hence, Colombia being a leader in plastic surgery and at the top of plastic surgery patients. Both men and women get stuff done here, so, yes, breast implants are common.
3. Yes I know a couple girls that are CAM girls. And yes, they do it for the money. They earn great money because they get paid in foreign currency.
4. My advice about seeing this girl…keep her as a friend. In my opinion it probably won’t get anywhere serious since you’re not living here. If you were living here in Medellin that would be different.
Thank you,I really appreciated.I’m planning to see her soon.It would be great to live there,if I can find a decent job.I know spanish.Being that I’m chicano.I need to see what kind of Visa is require.Heck,if Donald Trump becomes president,I’ll move right away.I’ll look you up,when I arrive in Medellin.So I can know everything I need to know about the city.Thank you very much.
Hi, Andrew! Any tips for a solo female traveler? Other than the things you would watch out for in any city, is there anything else to be aware of? The media often portrays Colombia as extremely dangerous for females–not being able to walk out into the street alone during the day, people robbing you at knifepoint, etc.
I don’t look like a tourist either. I’m Latina and speak Spanish (just not Colombian Spanish). Any advice?
Hi Katie, it’s really cool to see more female travelers, so kudos to you. As for advice…I’ve met a few solo female travelers and most have told me that they’ve made friends through conversation clubs, language exchanges and couchsurfing.org. If you’re out here and need more guidance feel free to contact me.
Hello Andrew…many thanks for a very informative blog. I’m actually going to visit your town in middle October and your info has been very useful. As a single man, latino (peruvian born), I’ve come to believe that Colombian women have something so special that I want to explore it a bit. It won’t be my “mission in life” but I want to give it a whirl. I’m in my late 40s so why the hell not? Muchas gracias mi hermano…take care… David
David, thanks for the comment. I’m sure you’ll have a great time here. Good luck!
Hello Andrew. Thank you for the insightful information you have provided about your life experiences living in Medellin. Can you give input on living in other cities in Colombia? I have heard about some other cities in Colombia, that I would like to visit and spend time. Bogota(the capital, obviously), Villavicencio, Cali, and Bucaramanga. I was thinking of coming to Colombia to live for a bit or longer in the near future. Jobwise, I would look to do a computer job and teach English. Any input, dating and otherwise, would be greatly appreciated. I currently live in Miami, Florida and was raised here. Thank you in advance.
Xavier, I lived in Bogota for 6 months 5 years ago and it was great. Loads of things to do, restaurants, bars, nightlife, etc. I just didn’t like the rain and the cold and the traffic. As for the other cities, I’ve only visited them for a few days, so I don’t have much insight.
Andrew, just wanted to complement you for your blog. I just returned from Medellin last night. For years I heard about the women in Medellin so I finally decided to go and see what was all the fuss about. Let me tell you!! my buddy and I had the best two week vacation of a long time. We are from Southern California, we both speak Spanish so that was very helpful. The women and the people in Medellin are very social and very helpful. The beauty of their women was beyond my expectation. I have been to approximately 25 countries around the world but the GDP of beautiful women per capita in Medellin is off the chart. By talking to women I met I was able to tell that they are very open minded and things are a little bit different than in the US. I am writing about my own experience and these are my personal opinions. A lot of women have voluptuous natural curves and the ones that don’t, get plastic breast and butts. Though, I will have to better discribe them their butts as badankadonks. No bull. My advise to anyone going there with the intent to meet women there for a relationship, friendship or dating is to do the work before getting there. Get on a dating site to talk and meet people so that you are set once you get there. Establish friendship before getting there to maximize your opportunities!! the rest becomes natural. Now there are also a lots of prostitution in parque lleras but that’s not my style. For women plastic surgery is more important than getting a car or a motorcycle. Because they want to be attractive for their men. There are more women than men. You can get around the city with Uber it works great. You can get money from most ATMs make sure you let your bank know about it before you go. Bring a buddy all girls will set you up with their friends and you can share the hotel cost. Yes most foreigners are welcome, they are very curious to meet people from other countries even other Latin countries. Be safe, be courteous, and have fun.
hey nice write up, some of the best girls in the world can be found here
Hi Andrew !
My name is Anthony, I come from France where I graduated from high school then I lived for about three years in San Diego, CA where I studied Social Sciences in community college. I’m currently planning my road trip in Colombia for next year, it’s gonna be a long trip (approximately 6 months) and obviously I want to see as much as possible of Colombia !
Therefore, I wanted to ask you, if you know some people who did wwoofing and maybe know some, who actually need some help somewhere in Medellin or anywhere else in Colombia ?
Plus, do you have any recommandations, like places to visit, restaurants in Medellin, Street arts, music festivals and more ? I really want to feel and be part of that culture !
PS: Thank you for your posting, and have a blessed day !
Hi Anthony, thanks for the comment. I don’t know anyone that has done Wwoofing, but you might want to try to reach out in the CouchSurfing.org community. As for places to visit…there are a ton of places to visit, 6 months isn’t enough to see all of Colombia, but I highly recommend Bogota, Medellin, Cali, Cartagena, Santa Marta and Bucaramanga. Depending on the dates you’re visiting you can catch those places during festivals and it’s a ton of fun. For example Bogota has concerts and cultural events year round, but Medellin has the Flower Festival (Feria de las Flores) in August, Cali has their Feria de Cali in December, Cartagena has their own festivals in October as does Santa Marta. So you might want to plan you trip around festivals.
Yeah, your blog is always entertaining and interesting to read and then revisit at times… I travel quite often, working in Afghanistan with lots of time off in between tours but I have yet to travel through south America. Spanish is minimal, but throw me in the fire and i’ll make due.
Plan on visiting for the first time, maybe AirBnB a week here n there, for a total of a month or so to start this july 2017… Medellin, cali, etc.
My buddy from argentina says I look argentine but should get that gringo effect you mentioned with my gringo look with longer dark hair, obvious American accent. Dunno what im gonna do for shoes yet but im sure some pants like you have and some V-necks and I should be ok.
who knows, maybe i’ll run into ya. beers on me if that’s the case. several of my coworkers are married to brasilians, philipinos and Colombians so I wanna see what the rave is about… tired of texas girls lol
Thanks for the comment Jae, I’m glad you like Colombia.
Hello! What about the other way around? I’m a 21-year-old American girl who is blonde and white. I’m going to Colombia next month. Are Colombian guys as interested in American girls as Colombian girls are in American guys? Will being American work to my advantage or will it just make me stand out? Should I expect to be catcalled while I’m there because I look foreign (I’ve heard this is very common)?
Hi Nicole, thanks for the comment. That’s a great question. I have quite a few white, girl friends here. From the US and Europe and all of them have great luck here. They are seen as exotic…and sexy by guys here. Even the not so attractive ones get play. Just for their blond hair and white skin. A good person to reach out to is Eleni Cotsis, she’s a white girl with a Colombian boyfriend. She wrote a pretty good guest blog post about her experience here: http://www.vidafortwo.com/dating-colombian-men/. This is her site: https://www.elenicotsis.com/. Here are a couple other great posts: http://bogotastic.com/2016/07/20/confessions-dating-colombian-man/ and https://beyondcolombia.wordpress.com/2015/01/16/10-types-of-colombians-guys/.
As for the cat calls, yeah you’ll get cat called pretty much everywhere in the world, here is no exception. And like most places in the world you’ll get it to the most from middle to lower income level guys.
It seems you are still paying attention to this blog of yours and I take the opportunity to ventilate my roller-coaster feelings after writing a Colombian girl via hotmail. I don’t know what to think! Normally I am a quite suspicious person and I give notice to inconsistencies in a story that leads me to believe that bogus is going on. Maybe I can believe this girl or she is a master to deceive me and trick money out of me. So far what she tells me about herself is possible. It’s not unlikely, she is a girl from a much poorer country than I am. Some questions about financial support are reasonable.
1. I met her as a camgirl, yes I know, red alert, but wait. We came to talk a lot with each other in pvt, she was fully dressed all the time (but she did a good show for me some days earlier). She told me she felt dirty, used and disgusted to be there and her mother disliked it. She is 24 years and lives with her parents. She needed money for her college studies and couldn’t find any other way to get it. Many Colombian girls are doing that, she said. Yes, that seems to be true, many write that in their bios. She wanted to quit the site within the next two days, it was pure coincidence I was there before she checked out.
2. I gave her my mail address, she didn’t ask for it. I never thought she would write. She did. We have exchanged about 25 mails each since.
3. She sent (non-nude) photos of herself to prove that she was the one I saw on the cam site. Yes, it’s the same person.
4. She doesn’t speak English, I cannot speak Spanish. I offered her to learn English if I pay her, asked her to find an institute and show me the costs. When I recently got angry at her for asking for money, she pointed out to me that I was the one offering her to go to English classes, not her. She is right about that. She showed me an institute and it was about 85 dollars a month.
5. Already during the webcam chat she mentioned her father was diagnosed with cancer and the medication and the treatment was very expensive. She did not expressively ask for money, but it was a difficult financial situation. Then her father got a heart attack. She made selfies with herself in the intensive care station with a man in the bed behind. You could clearly see that she’d spent a long time crying, her eyes looked terrible.
6. She needs to go to an internet cafe all the time, we would be able to be so much closer if I bought a computer for her – okay, I have heard this story many times. She sent a picture of what she wanted, 1800 dollars, I said the computers I buy here are maybe 500 dollars and are perfectly okay for internet and chatting. I never bought that computer. I will never do that. She does not insist, but now and then returns to the fact that it would be so much easier to chat.
7. I have agreed to send her 120 dollars every month to finance the English class and give some extra, two payments so far. She has not started yet, I didn’t expect it to happen so quick, that’s fine. Recently she wrote about all the trouble she goes through at home with fighting parents, her siblings want her to pay everything for her parents as she is the child living at home. She cannot stand the unrest and will rent a small room somewhere else. That will increase her spending and my monthly support will not be sufficient for English class and an own living. Okay, could be true.
8. To be able to send her money by bank wire the Colombian bank required her personal data, full name, birth date and address. She hesitated for several mails to give it to me. She said I could spread pictures of her from her webcam period, send them to the address, and her life would be destroyed for ever. No employer would employ a person with nude pictures spread all around over the net. (I found some of her on the net, by her webcam alias name, which is the same she uses for hotmail, I did not spread them.) I got her full name, full address and birth date, and she received the money. Because of the huge fees she wants me to use Western Union next time.
9. She writes long mails, up to 4 pages, run through a translator. She has looked up info regarding my country, read about the history, the culture, looked at fotos, commented on it as any girl who wants to learn about a new country. It impressed me. She never talks about partying, discos, clubs, dancing, evening with friends, etc. So far just sad stories about her father’s health and she has to take care of her niece.
10. I feel some kind of love for her. The love an older single Western guy will feel for a much younger poor girl from a poorer country. I tried to arrange to see her. But the air fares are too high. She has not really asked for money to see me. I have tried to go myself, but it will not be possible. We agreed she needs to learn English first.
11. I wrote her a really angry mail the other day, bringing up all I heard about cheating, gold digging, that she claims to love me, but it is just because I send her money. I expected she would be very angry and say I could go to hell, or that she would not reply at all, I offered her to go away and leave me in peace if my accusations were true. No, she replied in a long very sad mail, that she understands me, when she puts herself in my situation she can very well understand that I suspect her to be fake, but it is not true, and if I decide to cancel the relationship she would accept it, though she would miss me.
12. I couldn’t. She could have written so many other stuff that would have prevented me from going on.
13. She said all the recent costs for her parents, her new rental room, an accident on a motor bike (she sent a picture of her bruised leg), has created a situation where there is not enough money to pay her college fee end of July. She said she hated to bring up this subject again with me, as I was so against her talking about money, but she had no other person to ask. I said I would give it to her, 180 dollars, but I deduct the surplus from the next two month’s of support, she will then get 30 dollars less. She wrote literally that this is the last time she will be asking for money. I will remind her of it if she asks again, be sure.
I understand that a girl from the Pereira area, who is very young, who seems to have high goals to get out of her miserable situation by working hard, studying hard, not meeting a Colombian guy who makes her pregnant (which happened to her sisters), is interested in a Westerner (European) with quite other financial means, and who is much older. She has no problems that I am much older, and I have no problems that she is much younger. There is an age difference of 30 years. I never had a relationship and she had her last one three years ago where she lost a child in the fourth month. We get along very well by mail, we share a lot of values (which surprises me), she is not childish, not stupid, not a party-goer, she wants to learn to swim, dance, skate, just to get away from her fighting parents at home. We discussed a future together but we came both, not just me, to the conclusion that it is probably not possible, the language, cultural and climate barriers are too high. We decided to go on as a bit more than friends on the mail and see what happens in the long run. She will make her exam in psychology within 2 years. Before that nothing will happen.
Am I getting robbed here or not, Andrew? I cannot tell. It can be either way. Is it possible that she is just a liar, that she is instead on another cam site, that she writes this way to many other stupid Americans or Europeans (but four pages each to everyone every night?). Or is it true that she wanted the contact with me because I treated her so good already in the webcam chat room, and I was so understanding and encouraging?
I understand that Colombianas look different on older men than Western girls do. That my secure financial situation and higher social status makes me attractive. And probably she has learned that Westerners have nothing against falling in love with much younger and good-looking girls from the Latina area. All relationships include hard facts, even from girls in my own country. A poor guy cannot get a rich girl. A very ugly guy cannot get a good-looking girl even if he has a fortune (up to a limit).
Is it really possible that she is so advanced that she fakes her name, address and birth name (by using a friend’s) to withdraw money from the bank? Is all a friend’s account? Is it possible that she sends fake selfies of herself with a man in the hospital in the background who is not her father? I knew about her father’s problems before we started mailing. Why go through so much trouble to break into a hospital and make fake pictures?
If she is not making more than 190 dollars a month in the dentist office, and she needs to support her parents, as she says, and she needs to pay the medical bills for her father and his medication, and she needs to pay for her college studies – and if she does not want to be a camgirl anymore (she hasn’t been online on the camsite where she used to be) because she feels dirty and used and her mother dislikes it – of course I understand that she is short of money. If I can make her life somewhat lighter by sending a relatively small amount every month, why not? I have asked her several times not to lie to me, to tell me the truth. Okay, you can say whatever, but the length, the complexity, her interest in me and my country, makes me unsure whether it is fake or not. Is it true everlasting love? Maybe not.
What do you think, Andrew? I am running through nightmares certain days, and other days I feel happy that someone is writing me every night and give me a lot of passion. She has my real name and my real address but nevertheless I would feel free to break up from one day to the next – but I need to be able to point out something with makes me want to discontinue. I haven’t found that yet. Can someone really be that advanced, to fake 25 mails, get the story to hold together, still being passionate about me? I would not write to you if these requests for computer and money didn’t come up now and then. Is there any proof she can send to me that she is who she says? Pictures are correct. Is the name correct? Sometimes I am afraid I am a fool.
Charles, thanks for sharing. I’ll give you my opinion here. It doesn’t sound like she’s trying to scam you. But you should be careful because even though people here (or anywhere in the world) are genuinely nice, circumstances will make them do bad things. Her situation has her backed into a wall (at least she doesn’t have a kid) and sometimes desperate times call for desperate measures, even if it means she has to lie to you about her feelings for you.
I’m an optimist though and I’m trying to give her the benefit of the doubt.
So the first thing I would do is ask her if she has a facebook account. This email thing isn’t a good filter. If she doesn’t have a facebook account then there’s something wrong. Almost everyone in Colombian has one. On facebook you can see her real pictures, friends, activities, etc.
Second, don’t go spending too much money on her. You’re already giving her $120 US a month, that’s enough.
Third, you need to make a plan and set a date to come visit her. If there’s no actual date, then all of this is not real and you’re just sending money to a cam girl.
I really hope that everything works out. Please keep me informed on what happens.
Thanks for commenting. I am a bit surprised that you are so optimistic. I say statistics are against me – should I belong to the 0,5% of all guys in the world that manage to save an ex-camming girl from a miserable circumstances and bring her out to a decent job and a decent life? It’s more likely that I am deceived.
In my desperation I wrote another blog dealing with unfaithful Colombian girls. My questions were made a blogpost during the last night, and all comments say that I am dealing with a full-time prostitute, who was so good at camming because she was already before a prostitute. There are numerous stories that resembles mine, going to work to pay for college fees is to say that she works in a local brothel. On that site nobody is positive at all.
In court I would have to confess, though, that I cannot find an obvious lie in what this girl wrote so far. Just her previous life is against her and the numerous stories about the same procedure.
If I find a lie I will cancel her immediately. So far the financial bit is bothering me and yesterday I told her I cannot support her. Silence this morning. Let’s see if she writes again.
Still, I cannot understand why someone goes through so much effort, to write day in and day out, for so little money. She has never explicitly asked for money until these last 180 dollars. She has asked for a computer several times, that’s all.
If she’s a local prostitute why just accept two or three more customers and she gets more than I gave her?
Still there are pros and cons. But nobody but you are really sending me optimistic comments.
Charles, I’m curious to know how this has panned out. If you don’t mind sharing, let us know what has happened. I truly do hope it has gone well for you. Cheers.
Hello Charles and Andrew. I am in a similar situation. But there are key differences (I think).
She has a son from a previous relationship. I have a daughter from my previous marriage. She never asked for money directly. I have sent her USD$1000 so far to help her, her son and family, no strings attached. I have her address and also copies of her identification documents (among other things). Within a short period of time talking we both agreed to be in a Long Distance Relationship. Our status (both of us) on Facebook reflect this. She has asked me stay with her when I come to Colombia (trying to make it happen in 2017). I have spoken to other ‘friends’ in Colombia and they agree she seems legit. BTW I’m 18 years older than she is.
Andrew, sorry for not replying to you earlier. I have been on vacation and was happy not to have any computer with me.
I still have contact with this girl! I cannot find anything wrong with her. I need to find proof that she is lying or giving an inconsistent story in order for me to get angry enough to close down the contact. Everything she says is perfectly possible! We have exchanged more than 50 mails by now.
I questioned her real hard about her identity. She was sad and angry with me as I never seemed to believe anything she said. She sent a copy of her Colombian id card (I checked others on the net, it is no fake), she sent the id card from her university and her job. All have the same name, the photo on the id-cards correspond to the girl I saw on cam. Her name corresponds to the owner of the bank account. I’ve done more than US Customs to verify her. Therefore I know who she is, her full name, her home address, her work address, her birth date, her bank account number and she even sent me her password to access the internet bank, but I did not use it. So she is the one she claims to be.
She has asked me for money twice, last time she says it was her last request. I will bring it up if she asks again. In total 400 USD. She doesn’t require to come to me, she doesn’t require me to come to Colombia. We still want to meet but she needs to learn English first. When we meet it will be in a neutral place, probably Spain. Although she was a camgirl we never ever talk about sex, we never exchange erotic pictures, it’s a topic we never discuss.
I am still in a state of more than friendship. But I don’t think love will last to the point when she graduates and is able to move to my country (maybe in 4 years). I went through mental hell after reading all stories about cheating Colombianas. I am still skeptical, I am still looking for errors. But I don’t find any. Let’s say all this is not fake, all is real. How could I abandon a nice girl who writes so compassionate and encouraging mails to me just because other Colombian camgirls have been cheaters? I seem to mean a lot to her being nice. She helps me a lot, like no other female contact I ever had, overcoming my bad self-esteem. She teaches me to be positive, tricks to become a happier person (she studies psychology, it shows). Not even my closest friends since childhood have been so helpful and understanding. And I should regard her as a hooker? I cannot.
So, yes, everything could still be romance scam, although I don’t understand why someone will go through so much to keep me. There is an enormous age difference, still we talk and feel the same. It’s crazy. I can very well imagine that she likes an older Western guy with more money who will bring her a better social status. But so – does not every girl want that? And is not an older Western girl very pleased to have a young girlfriend who gives him status and who brings joy?
I cannot break before I have a reason. I am most likely not speaking to my future wife. But I like her a lot.
Get a job man. These losers here believe your crap especially ones from Europe
Hi Mark, firstly, I do have a job, well I run a business here in Medellin. Secondly, I’m sorry you feel that way, I’m just writing my experiences here, not trying to convince anyone of anything, I think it’s pretty evident in the tone I set when I write. Regardless, I appreciate the criticism and will work on making my tone of writing more clear.
It’s Caleb again.
Have you ever considered making a blog post or a guide on training oneself to respond to venom with compassion? It’s something you are skilled at, and it would be super-valuable if you could help others develop the same skill.
Doubly so if you have this same ability in your offline interactions.
Thanks Caleb. I don’t think people are trying to be venomous, I just think they don’t know me and are just taking a snap reaction and running with.
I guess I just give people the benefit of the doubt at all times. It’s not easy to live life this way. I have zero enemies, great friends and can honestly say that I’m very happy.
I’m glad you can maintain this attitude offline as well. Always assuming the best of others generally pays off in the long run.
But, you didn’t answer my question. 😉
Haha, you’re right, I avoided the question. I think writing something along those lines would take a lot of a time and research. I’ll have to start working on it. What about you? How do you handle negativity?
Well, sometimes it’s hard for me, to be honest. But I find imaginative thought experiments help me to give people the benefit of the doubt.
For example, if someone cuts me off in traffic, I can think to myself, “That person didn’t see me. He must be distracted by something. Maybe something bad happened in his life very recently. I hope he is OK.” This helps me feel compassion for him instead of being angry with him. If I do this again and again, it begins to become second nature. But it requires vigilance and persistence, and I must admit that sometimes I let my guard down and forget, and then become irritated (and react like a typical irritated person would). Both online and off.
Compassion, like many qualities people incorrectly assume to be ingrained and present from birth, is a learned skill, and like any skill it requires practice practice practice to be good at it.
From reading your replies to many posters to your blog (not just the one above), I can easily see that you have developed this skill. Did you develop it consciously and deliberately? Or was it gradually taught to you as you grew up? If the former, then you have a lot of valuable things to say on the subject, and I for one would love to read them; hence my suggestion. If the latter, then perhaps your parents should start writing a blog. 😛
Hola, no sé cómo terminé en este blog! Al ver el tìtulo me esperaba una chorrada acerca de el prototipo de las mujeres paisas, pero he encontrado una interpretación personal muy respetuosa y divertida, seguramente de gran interés para otros chicos extranjeros… Me causó mucha risa tu comentario acerca de que los colombianos estamos obsesionados con los dientes lol, si que es cierto! Viví en el extranjero y cuando después de almorzar me veian en el baño cepillandome los dientes las chicas se quedaban como wtf, que exagerada! Saludos. PD. Soy de Bogotá
Jennifer, gracias. Si, es verdad, muchos hombres de otros paises vienen a Colombia por que creen que pueden golear con las mujeres, pero la realidad es que si un hombre tiene inseguridades, no importa donde este siempre le ira mal. Ya después de 7 años de vivir en Medellin creía que tenia una percepción buena de las mujeres paisas…pero siempre me sorprenden y me dan ha realizar que no se nada de mujeres, jaja. Lo único que se es que si soy buena persona, honesta, educada, trabajadora, deportista, me va bien. En que parte de Bogota vives? Yo viví en Suba, por el Exito por 6 meses.
Hola, gracias por la respuesta. Te cuento que yo también viví en Suba detras del Exito, pero ahora estoy por Villas de Granada. Sabes, me gustaría saber tu opinión sobre esto; Conocí un chico por tinder hace tres meses, pero nunca nos vimos personalmente, durante este tiempo hemos venido hablando con mucho feeling y él decidió venir a verme, llega en 20 días. El plan es que llega a Bogotá y de ahí nos vamos a San Andres pero me ha sorprendido pidiendome que paguemos mitad y mitad el hotel mitad y mitad (hahahah) osea esto nunca me había pasado… Como puedo abordar esto, o como le digo que simplemente no me parece que me este poniendo a pagar… osea no se como será en Europa, pero eso aquì es una boleta. Qué opinas?
Pd: Das clases via skype?
The problem with foreigners in Colombia is they always resort to what has worked for them in the past, via instinct. I havnt paid for sex (besides paying for drinks and dinner) and i’ve hooked up with a couple video vixens, a few models, and the rest are simply gorgeous home grown girls that are tired of the stereotypical local.
I speak very little spanish, and my charm has been 95% through smiles and the Google Translate app. Still, i do well. I make it a point to speak clear and loud english in a locals only discoteca and the attention is instantly on me like i’m famous or something. I use that to my advantage.
That’s all that needs to be done. Simply be somewhat groomed, confident, and willing to push your own bounderies. I’m super gringo and i capitalize on the “exotic” factor.
I’ve picked up girls in Parque Lleras with flip flops and a basketball jersey on, but I quickly say hello and how are you in English and I wait for the confused look and then say it in Spanish and then I say (in spanish) sorry but my Spanish is very new and bad. I then either ask tienes whatsapp or simply pull out my own phone and type up a quick message or have a preloaded message about what are you doing today using my translator app, and then my foot is on the door for more.
Btw, use tinder and (especially) if youre from the US and english only, state that in your profile and keep it simple.
There are several girls that I would consider dating long time here… of course that’s easier when they all look like your dream girl : )
Hey Justin, I’m not sure if your really understood my comment hahaha… but thank you anyway 😉
Hey Andrew, going to be traveling to Medellin from Dec22-Dec29, and I even contemplated NYE. What’s your thoughts on this time frame? I’ve heard mixed reviews about the Holiday season.
Also, I barellllllllyyyyy speak any spanish. I’ll definitely refresh on some common things/terms, but we’ll see how that goes. Total time in Colombia will be from Dec22-Jan7. I’m pretty savvy here in the US, and I’ve been very fortunate in my travels across Europe and Asia. I like a mix of the local fun and also some expat fun as well.
I have been thinking of going to Columbia for a long time, Usually, I spend the cold-Canadian winters in Cuba. However, I have decided to branch out. This year, I feel that I will take the plunge. My only question is: how dangerous is Columbia, or is it dangerous and the hype is just that – hype? No pienso que tendre problemas con la idioma. Mi preocupacion, sin embargo, es el seguirdad. Estoy preocupando por nada. Thanks.
Colombia is as dangerous as you make it to be. If you’re looking for drugs and prostitutes, you’re bound to get into trouble just like anywhere else in the world. I’ve been here 7 years, and have yet to be mugged, pickpocketed, or burglarized. Furthermore, I’ve lived in 7 different neighborhoods, including downtown, where I stayed for a year and a half.
Yo I like the posts and I’m from Pomona and LA so I’m sure we had a common up bringing. Tell me the Exito u were at with the pretty teller girl was in Estadio cuz I was picturing u at one of the banks up stairs and then going down to Estadio. I was there in April for a month Solo. I was at atanasio everyday and I didn’t get a chance to ball 🏀. Anyways I’m gearing to move out there in January, teach English and maybe math, and actually live back and forth (Glendale and Colombia somewhere) while I get this cannabis industry biz square so I can enterprise better. Anyways I’d love to chop it up with u, I’m about 70% with my Spanish and I’m a lifelong Hooper. I’d love to hoop in colombia…moneygreenrain@gmail- shoot me message so I can link with u bro
Thanks for the great post!
I’m quite new in here, less than a month
As it seems you have quite an experience with Colombian dating I would like to ask you something that really is frustrating me – how common is that a girl will bring her friend (a lot of time a gay friend) to the second date? (I mean , before we had an actual time to get to know each other
Is this the Colombian culture or I should run away from this type kind of girls? Moreover, in this particular case she have asked me to pay for her and her friend.
I would like to here your take on this as a veteran
I have heard of this happening to other foreigners, usually, older guys taking younger girls out. I’ve been here 7 years, and this has never happened to me. So for me, this is uncommon. It seems odd that she’d bring someone along on a 2nd date. Usually, it happens on a first date. Regardless, if it happened to me I’d just ask her straight up what the deal is. Maybe she’s not into you. I’d ask before making assumptions…women are strange creatures.
No, I’m not an old guy who are looking to be a sugar daddy, no way 🙂
I’m at my 30’s and believe that look a bit better than average.
And why would you say on first dates, this had happened to me as well, but you don’t find it extremely inappropriate?
And about that girl in specific, from her reactions I believe she’s into me. However, I promised myself to stay away from girls like that, they are just poor trash (sorry for my French) and don’t deserve my time or attention
Really good read! I am really interested in a trip to Medellin but cannot speak spanish. Seems like it would be hard to have a good time and enjoy the experience without spanish. I tried to gain some pen pals so I might have someone to hang out with a little when I get there but that didn’t work to well. Maybe I will try and work on my spanish a little more. I was also wondering how the girls over there react to older guys? I’m in my early 50’s but look more like 40’s.
John, even with very limited Spanish you’ll have a good time.
Where would you suggest I stay and do you have any other suggestions for the trip?
John, it depends on what you like to do and your budget. I like to meet people and go out at night, so I’d probably stay in a private room at a boutique hostel like Los Patios or La Presidenta. As for what to do, again it depends on what you like to do and your budget. I’m a history buff; therefore, I’d go to the museums and take the walking tour to downtown, and at night there are many things to do. I wrote a nightlife blog post.
Hi,iam from los angeles california and iam in medellin now on vacation. Thanks for all the info you provide, on were to party and hang out
Any guy trips or group trips going to medallion im in Not that i want to hang around a bunch of guys mainly going for the women But it would be a huge help if i knew somebody going that knows a little or lot perferably more spanish than me. Or has been before that knows all the hott spots im flexible on any dates i can goim retired 55 w m Somebody give me some info plus on top of that i havnt been out of the country in 20 years tom
American women are so effed up with all the assault and harassment nonsense; (ego trips) they have destroyed dating and marriage in America. A man in America who marries is simply a fool because of the anti-marriage entanglements of the laws.
Consequently, since ejaculation is a necessity of nature, the only recourse is to try and find normal natural women, and that drives American men to non-American women.
God Bless them.
hey Andrew my name is Don I just got back home here in Indiana USA from two weeks in Panama where I helped out a friend at a local orphanage there in David and then spent 9 days in Boca Del Toro where I had an awesome time, but my lack in Spanish speaking was a screw up so I will be starting a Spanish class on line so I will be able to talk a little bit of Spanish when I come to Medellin in February next year, sure they only way I was able to communicate in Panama was through a translation app on my phone the local thought it was pretty funny me using it but they also helped me out more with the lack of Spanish speaking maybe they just thought I was cute trying to talk in Spanish but at least I was willing to try that’s why they helped and liked me so much, I did have a great time there, and it seems the people there were more helpful because at least I was trying to speak and learn the Spanish my hats off the people of Panama and I hope to be there in Medellin next FEB. 2019 as long as my health holds up,i had a major heartattack 6 months ago that’s why with what ever time the good Lord gives me I will travel and spend my kids inheritance cant take it with you and my kids have done nothing to deserve it BYE tell February 2019
Don, thanks for the comment. I’m sure you’ll have a great time here in Medellin, and, yes, knowing some Spanish will go a long way here. Hit me up when you get here, we can meet up for coffee or a beer. Cheers.
17 months ago I lost my Colombian esposa of just 78 days short of 20 year long marrage to ovarian cancer. She had a great loving/careing personality, honest as a summer day is long, hard working and beautiful. I am actually thinking of selling out in the USA and retiring in the “City of Eternal Spring” area and looking for someone symilar to her….. But it has not even been two years yet and I still do not have the mental strength to date yet sadly…..
Pop over to http://www.3cats.com/wedding.htm to see our Hawaiian wedding album if you like.
Thanks for the good read, Glennnnnn
Sorry to hear about your loss. My condolences to you and your fam. Retiring in Medellin seems to be on the mind of many men and women around the globe. I’ve met single guys, married couples, single women that have sold everything and have made Medellin their home. I think it’s a lot less of an uncharted territory now.
It really is a great city, the weather is wonderful and the women are off the charts! You are right that online dating here does take more effort than some guys may be expecting. THe heart icon will get you nowhere, you need to actually read what they have to say and know how to come up with some sort of worthwhile message.
Hi Andrew! I will be traveling in Bogota in October alone. I was a bit scared as my Spanish was not that good but I think I am getting better and I know it will help me a lot. I love Colombianas and that is the main reason why I am going to Colombia. Do you think we can meet up in Bogota or I can see you in Medellin? I would like to make new friends there and as I am planning to move in Colombia permanently. I am a Filipino who understands and speaks Spanish a little bit and I work in the Cruise Line industry. Hope to hear from you. Take care brother!
Hi Adrian, I’m sure you’ll do fine here. Immersing yourself in the language and culture will heighten your Spanish skills for sure.
As for meeting up? I live in Medellin and don’t like going to Bogota at all. Most of my time is spent managing my business or playing basketball. If you play basketball come out and we’ll meet.
This is funny.. I’m Jamaican living in South Florida and addicted to Pinay of which I’m in correspondence with about 6 from the 3 areas in the Phillipine.
I think, based on my experience, that Pinay and Thai women are the most humble and alluring, and are easily the world’s 14th and 15hh most beautiful women, but 3rd and 4th in thw South East Asian world.
My curiosity though is why would a Pinoy try to get a Columbian or Venezuelan for that matter when he have one of the most endearing women in his world?
As far as I see it, all Colombian girls I’ve fished for are always interested to come to the U.S and that isn’t good. To me that only means they wanna come here then shake you off..
My advice; leave them alone!
Great post! It gives you a glimpse of dating and nightlife in Colombia. I think you should visit Puerto Rico sometime. I have a feeling that you would like it. Take care Andrew.
Im from California and So Cal as well! It’s my first time in Colombia and Medellin until Thurs. And then travelling elsewhere around Colombia.
Of course I know it’s short notice but perhaps a quick meet up tomorrow/wed. Night around poblado/wherever as I’m seriously thinking of moving here and am in my mid 30’s as well never married. In marketing as well and a big Lakers/basketball fan (LeBron here we go)
Hi Brandon, today is the day I play basketball from 5pm to 7pm then I go back to the office to wrap the work day up and head home. Perhaps next time you’re in town.
I commented on your blog a week or so ago and asked you a question with no response back. lol! I guess you only respond to the easy comments. Its all good, This blog is all about YOU and nothing else,
You come off as an arrogant guy who thinks he knows everything. Guess what? You don’t! You are almost 40 years old and seem to care more about basketball than finding and starting a family. As an outsider looking in this is what I see.
Maybe there is a reason you left the USA! Lol
Take care bro
Great feedback. However, it seems like you’ve only read my “dating women” post, thus your opinion. I know that most guys only read this blog post because they’re just interested in Colombian women, but if you had read a couple other posts you would have found that the main reason for me being in Colombia is to buy my parents a house and help them make the move back from California to their country…and never have to work again. Which, after 7 years, I’m achieving in October.
My second priority is my business. I have 14 staff members that I love and I spend A LOT of time working with. Ever since the business took off, that’s pretty much all I do.
I go to the gym at 6am, work from 8am to 4:30 pm, play basketball from 5pm to 7pm, go back to the office and work from 8 to 9:30pm and go home.
So you can see how starting a family doesn’t really fit into the equation.
Furthermore, Dani is a great girl, but just not the one.
Congratulations on achieving the goal to help your parents. God Speed on that brother. I wish you nothing but the best, however in my HUMBLE opinion, You should seriously consider deleting this dating portion of your blog. You in all honestly due to your business, basketball, and drinking and partying, Are the LAST person to be giving dating advice to foreigners or even locals for that matter. Problem is that some men are extremely naïve and passive and look for guidance from complete strangers over the internet.
You seem like a decent guy but you also seem naïve and passive. I applaud the fact that you can handle criticism, as well as praise. A person must be able to see both sides of the novel my friend and not seem arrogant and self centered. Women probably see this in you as well but some may be too afraid to say it to you directly. I am very direct and to the point as you can see.
Yep, that’s why I titled it MY EXPERIENCE dating Colombian women. It’s not intended to be advice for guys, just a recount of my own personal experience. Again, thanks for the feedback.
The girl to the right sitting beside Monica looks so friendly and she is such a stunner! What a beautiful girl……
Tell her she has a fanclub ;p (the fanclub just grew with one person).
the guy at the front of the picture (white t shirt) is Nathan?
how much would you say, you can live on each month for living in medellin? i was there in may/june but satying in 5 star accomadtion. this time i need to budget some what, im aiming to return next month. Thanks
Thanks for your blog. I read about 25% of it just now and will read more. I am visiting Medellin in January for about 3 weeks (I’ve only been to Guatemala, Ecuador, Costa Rica, and Cuba). I am a writer so I can work anywhere and just return to the States at intervals. I’m kind of looking for a 2nd home, I speak a little Spanish and would like to learn more, and would also be interested in teaching ESL – I have a certificate (as well as 3 college degrees). Do you recommend a certain school or program in Medellin? I could only do it part time or give private lessons.
Thanks and cheers!
Mike, with your credentials you can pretty much apply anywhere. There are a ton of private schools now and there are many universities. All you need to do is search google “Cursos de ingles en medellin” and you’ll find many. You can send your resume in and follow up with emails and/or contact them via social media (facebook, instagram, WhatsApp, etc). Following up is key.
I got through reading most of your blog here, though I admit I still need to go through a bit more of your recent endeavors. I recently met a woman from Colombia during a business holiday event, and we got along very well, but she will be returning to her country. She had invited me to come to visit her and her friends in Bogota, but I am still curious how the grooming works. You say armpits and I assume lower areas, but how about the chest and stomach? I know here in America it depends on person to person, but that may not relate to every culture. Also, is Melissa’s article of Colombian fashion still up to par?
Thank you for the guide and your help!
Great read! Question:
You say that it is expected/common for men to have a side girl (I’ve actually heard from men down there that they have multiple side girls), so if the male/female ratio is roughly the same (53% male 47% female) doesn’t that mean that it’s common for girls to have a side dude or two as well? otherwise do the men all have the same few chicks as their side girls? LOL
Haha, I don’t know the exact numbers for how many dudes or girls have a side-person.
Of course there is no way to know exact numbers, but working with what we do have, my take is that men kiss and tell so it’s out in the open that they generally have side girls, but girls don’t talk/brag about cheating so it gets swept under the rug. So you kind of have to deduce it from the ratios that it’s got to be about the same on both ends.
I’ve stayed in Medellin numerous times like 90%+ women I met there all claimed they were not only single, but that they are not even seeing/talking to anyone at that moment (when I clarified further)
I believe this might explain the extreme jealousy there, since both sexes know cheating is common on both ends.
I advise all foreigners to keep this in mind, and for those who have “long distance” relationships, there is a saying in Colombia: “amor de lejos es amor de pendejos” google translate it 😉
I’m surprised that you are mid 30’s educated, motivated clean cut bilingual tall have all your hair and all your teeth and you haven’t landed a woman yet or a woman hasn’t nailed you. So many beautiful women out there and you would be a great catch, good provider and a good father. Tell us what its gonna take to pick one and make togetherness happen! Another question what about U.S. guys who swing bath ways, what’s tht situation like in Medellin. Will your same tips apply in that situation? Your style is great and I’ll continue reading your blog.
Hi David, thanks for the comment. I was recently dating someone…again, but it didn’t work out. Namely, because it wasn’t what I was looking for. I’m kind of difficult, regardless, I’m happy. As for guys that swing both ways. I’m not in that scene, so I wouldn’t be able to tell you if my notes apply. However, I know that there is a big scene here. It’s pretty evident. I’m sure you’ll have no problem making friends. Cheers.
Thanks Andrew. I’m planning to spend a week or ten days in El Pablado section and want to find an apart hotel there. Maybe you could get someone to write a blog on that topic with some basic and interesting information. I’m sure you have readers who would have some interest in that or be curious about it. I plan to read many of your blogs and infomational articles you put out. Thanks again! David
David, you should check out my friend Sam’s site: https://outincolombiatravel.com/.
I have read your blog for quite a while. I am in Medellin for a month and would like to grab a drink. I am exploring possibly moving here and would like to hear your experiences and anything else you would like to share.
Hi Andrew I am from So Cal as well and really enjoyed reading your blog! From what Ive read I share some of the aspirations you have in life as far as buying a house for my parents to retire in Medellin. I am 43 and would love to move there soon. I was born and raised in Los Angeles and would like to pick your mind on several things. Great Blog keep up the good work – Alex
Sure no prob.
I had a few froms from Medellin, they’re very cool and laid back people, some of the friendliest from Colombia. For sure the women are some of the most beautiful in S.America if not the world, particularly if you are attracted to brunette. Great story
Great Read Andrew and a lot of good information. I’m going to be spending a lot of time in the next year in Medellin for a new project. Definitely would love to hear from you about areas for short term stay for apartments and condos. Also are there some local groups for Americans to hang out with.
Hey Andrew, wanted to start off by saying I love your blog! I wanted to ask for your advice, Ive been wanting to live temporarily in medellin or preferablly Bogota for a while, got alot of family there, and I wanted to get a job maybe teaching or something, But the thing is i dont have a bachelors, only my associates. [23 yrs old btw] Do you think id be able to get a job teaching there, or some other type of job for a foreigner? My spanish is mediocre btw not super great, but im trying to get better at it. Thanks alot in advance man i appreciate it
Tim, if I were you I’d try to get a teaching job online. Here’s a list of many online English schools: https://www.goodairlanguage.com/teaching-english-online-2/. You’ll get paid in dollars, and most likely, way more than you would at a normal teaching job in Colombia. Furthermore, you don’t have to work full time. So if you teach online part-time…when you get to Bogota you can look for a teaching gig in order to meet new people…for fun, not so much for the money.
Many online teaching jobs will require some sort of pedagogical degree or English teaching certificates like the TEFL, TESOL, or CELTA; however, there are many that only require an associates degree and training. Just gotta search. Good luck!
Hey thanks alot for the reply Andrew, much appreciated. I definitley might look into online teaching then if it pays that much better. But just to be clear if i wanted to get a teaching job part time, more so for fun as you say, and to meet people, Is an associates and Tefl enough for some jobs there? Plan on getting bachelors later. Thanks again!
Tim, yes associates and TEFL is enough to land you a teaching job here.
It’s nice meeting foreign people. I use to travel and meet new friends along the way. One time I got attached with a girl and turned out that it’s hard to have a LDR relationship. Though the experience was fun.
I just returned from my first trip to Colombia, and in fact, this was my first time on the continent in general. The women are definitely beautiful but when combined with that energy, man that just knocks me out. Plus when a woman does her makeup to go to the gym, you know she’s on point.
Besides the beautiful women, i was captivated by the city, the vibe and most of all, the friendliness and graciousness of the people I encountered across the various social spectrums. I’ve been many places, but Medellin is a place I would consider laying roots down at some point in the future, even though I may start part time. I enjoy your blog and thank you for the information.
Thanks for the comment Gil. I’m glad you enjoyed your stay in Medellin. I felt the same way 9 years ago when I first got here. There’s definitely something special about Medellin. Cheers!
Dear Andrew, I enjoy your blog. Thank you. I hope to see more news in the future. I especially like where you described your decision to make the best version of yourself, your friend’s support, and the discipline to continue it. Throughout your blog, I learn from and appreciate your analysis. Moreover, you have inspired me to make the best version of myself, and I am sincerely thankful to you for that. I wish you all the best.
Hi Ken, thanks for the comment, it’s inspiring. I’ll keep writing and keep bettering myself. I hope your 2020 is amazing!
Simplemente adoro tu artículo. Me encanta el idea de actualizarlo y tu estilo tan autentico de escribir. Me inspira mucho en seguir redactando de la manera más sincera mi blog de viajes. Hay, si hubieran más bloggers como tú, el internet sería un lugar mejor :)).
Qué sigas disfrutando Medellín, es un lugar precioso <3
Gracias Lulia, como es tu blog?
Hi, I’m Spanish-American and planning to go to Medellin next month. Its a great article which I found just at the right time I think-some great insights. However I’m not tall like you but pretty average just about 5-6.5 so not sure if this will make things much difficult for me?
Hi Richard, no I think your height is fine.
Hey! I’ve been wanting to see how you are doing during this quarantine. We would like to see the next update!
Hi Sam, working on it. I’ll have a video update. Also, check out my vlog/podcast on youtube: https://www.youtube.com/colombiapodcast
Hi Andrew, I am a Colombian and just read the article. I would like to mention that I am one of the women you described as: “higher quality woman”, the reason why is because I am 29 years, independent, hard worker and professional, who was not looking for a foreigner and now I am married to one. When men describe Colombian women as pretentious I disagree completely as there are places where you would be in a higher risk to meet these kinds of women not just in Colombia, but in every country (in clubs to be more specific). Therefore, there should not be stereotypes or generalizations. The women’s tendency in my country is to be hard, independent and team workers but you can always find population with “easy-achievable” goals. I also find the tips you give to men useful because for us it is more than important hygiene and personal presentation but also men with goals and interesting topics to talk about. I really enjoyed reading your blog, thanks for describing us as we are, wish you the best! Enjoy Colombia as I can not for now.
Ximena, thank you for your comment. Yes, now having been here in Colombia for 10 years I’ve met so many great women. I don’t like the stereotypes, anyone that spends any substantial amount of time here, and makes an effort to meet people will find that there are all types of women here. Happy New Year!
Hi Andrew! Thank you for the AMAZING write up on Medellin life and dating. I’m an American from Las Vegas now living in Medellin. What a great city! I’m still at the “beginner” stage of my Spanish, but it is improving daily. I hired a Spanish tutor and we meet five days per week. I am finding it difficult to meet women (and men) to hang out with. I think the language barrier is definitely a hindrance in feeling comfortable engaging in all the great activities here. If you have any suggestions on where to go for language exchange or even places for the “Gringo” to hang out, I’m all ears. Thanks again for the fabulous write up. I will be following your blog 🙂